What parenting 'guidelines' did you not follow either by intent or circumstance?

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Neither of mine had a dummy

DS1 in own roon from 8 weeks

Both weened before 26 weeks

Both on cowsmilk at 10 months (when I stopped BF)

Both ate nuts at 12m

Drank wine whilst I breastfed and during pregnancy (athough not excessively)

Both are fine and doing well.....so spill the beans

Didn't know dummies were included amongst parenting guidelines: I always felt they were rather frowned upon and that "my dcs never had a dummy" had a certain amount of snob value. (btw my dcs never had a dummy ).

16 weeks were the weaning guideline when mine were little so not much bean spilling in that respect either.

But HV was a little shocked when I admitted that I let my toddler come into our bed if she wanted to (just as well she can't see the 9yo who is in there tonight).

Well apparently dummys are now recommended to help prevent SIDS, I think there is research to back this up. Wish I had given DD one as I can't seem to stop her sucking her thumb!

'Well apparently dummys are now recommended to help prevent SIDS'

This is rubbish.

'not supposed to drink wine whilst bf'

This is also rubbish.

My ignoring includes:

No set bedtimes even on school nights.

No set mealtimes

Sometimes no baths for weeks

cosleeping

cows milk at 7months

no baby rice

very very late immunisations

It makes me laugh that all the things I was told when I had my first (he is 8) have been turned around now, so the things I thought I was doing right now look dreadful!

I weaned at 14 weeks - baby rice and purees,
He had peanut butter from about 20 weeks,
He had a dummy, and loved it,
Was in cot/crib from birth, own room at 6 months, no co-sleeping,
Cows milk at 12 months,
Individual MMR jabs and boosters, all given much later than advised

...and he's still alive and dead healthy, no allergies or issues...just normal

God, both of mine have been in their own room from about a week old! Am a stupidly light sleeper and they were both real grunters, so I think I would have gone totally insane otherwise. Could still hear almost every sigh even in the other rooms though!

For me

Co sleeping.

Allowing my daughter to use a baby duvet from 11 months instead of waiting until a year. (I am desperate for sleep and she hated her grobag)

Allowing my dd to have proper family food which has a tiny amount of salt in it, rather than baby food.

I drank a small amount of wine when pregnant.

no dummy
not fussed about ds using bottle (he's a teeth grinder which is more an issue)
cosleeping
mmr seperately (and very glad I did)
not in layers of vests etc under babygrow

Both of mine had honey the day the were born.

No dummies, though i dont think that recommendation came until mine were bigger.

DS i ley sleep on his front in the bugyy (had a p and t) and id watch him and his breathing, but i was judged on that!

"'Well apparently dummys are now recommended to help prevent SIDS'

This is rubbish."

Sorry, but I do need to point out that this is completely and utterly wrong. Dummies can reduce the risk of cot death (potentially halve the risk!), several research studies back it up.
Link here

I didn't use a dummy, didn't know they were recommended to help prevent SIDS until my DS was a good few months old, but I wouldn't have used it anyway.

I put DS in his own room after 2 weeks. Llike someone else said, I woke with every little noise and he used to moan constantly in his sleep.

I weaned at 17 weeks, and yes this was only 2 years ago. He was bloody hungry and hungry baby milk was not doing the job. I was glad I did it as I took my time and done it really really slowly with just baby rice and veg and fruit purees until he was 6 months. I know friends of mine who waited until their DCs were 6 months and they said they felt like they had to rush and get it all 'done' within a really short space of time.

DD was in her own room the day after we came home (and we have had NO sleep issues since then...)

She had peanut butter from 7mo.

She's never had baby rice/baby porridge/baby food.

Letting them eat rusks.
Mine love them. none of them are overweight.

2 of mine slept on their sides from birth - and slept better.

Babies slept on sides from birth, too.
Not getting antibiotics for conjunctivitus (I find it clears on its own).
Ditto not wiping eyes clean when they have cj (I find that makes it much worse).
Peanut butter, whole grapes and strawberries before they were 1yo.
Leaving alone in bath at an age before many MNers would approve of.
Ditto for leaving alone at home (briefly).
Where they slept, how they slept (can't comment on dummies, never knew they were supposed to be good re SIDS).
Sometimes traveled in cars without carseats (very much circumstances not intent).
Am guilty about the no baths for weeks, too.

OTOH, mine aren't really allowed to play with marbles under the age of 7, too many family stories about primary school age boys choking on them!

And the eldest 2 rarely watched any TV until they were 4 & 6! My ideal would still be a no TV household.

My travelling friends (motorhome owners) sometimes drive overnight with their DC all tucked up in bed (no seatbelts on any of the kids). I can understand why, it makes things much easier.