Doesn't like nursery teacher

[Alibobster]

Title sums it up really. Ds (3.5) has been in nursery placement every afternoon since September. There have been a few changes with the teachers he has had in that time due to temporary contracts, maternity etc but now that has settled down and he has two teachers, one who is there Monday Tuesday & Wednesday (teacher 1) and the other covers Thursday & Friday (teacher 2). Up until now he has gone to nursery no problem but now he is saying he doesn't want to go when it's teacher 2. Last week he had to be pulled off me screaming albeit he was fine after I'd gone, and tonight we've just had a long talk before bedtime with him telling me he's not going to nursery tomorrow, he only wants to go when it's teacher 1. He won't give me any actual reason why he doesn't like her. The only explanaition I can think of is that she is a bit older that the other teachers (mid 50's) and a bit old- school with her approach; she doesn't seem to pander to them which is fair enough. I know I can't rely on the rambling stories of a 3 year old to find out what the real problem is but I don't know what to do and I've got a knot in my stomach worrying about this and worrying about tomorrow.

No advice but sympathy. I was going to suggest that he only went when teacher 1 was working, but that is silly. He will, in life, encounter people that he isn't keen on. As long as this woman isn't cruel - and there's no suggestion that she is, I'd carry on as normal. After all, he isn't playing with her exclusively is he?

Thanks Kreecher, you're right he is going to come across people in life that he won't necessarily like but will be unable to avoid. Spoken to him again this morning and he said he's a bit frightened because she's got a loud voice but I assured him I wouldn't be sending him if I thought she was a scary person. He seems a bit more reassured. If i'm honest I'm not that keen on the woman myself, I find it hard to make my mind up about her, although I have never let my feelings be known to ds. Sometimes I feel she's a bit snippy but other times she perfectly nice. We'll see how today goes

I would go in and maybe sit in on one of the mornings that the teacher he isn't sure about is there if you're able to do so.

As a supply teacher i have often sat with frightening teachers and or nurses in some nursery classes. There seems to be a climate of over control around which can be upsetting to some DCs.

my dd1 is now 13 and she hates her teacher so much but her teacher is actually quite nice but she saiz she would rather die i don´t understand what her problem is but anyway maybe she is a bit too harsh on the children because she teaches
like in old times. You should try to find out how she teaches and then you might see whats the problem

He's so little and he doesn't need to be there - is it worth all the distress?

There's plenty of time later for him to have to spend time with people he doesn't like. I would only send him Monday-Wed personally.

Exactly Missus84!!