School finishes at different times (anything between 11.15 and 1.15) he goes to an after school place where he plays with his friends, gets lunch, then homework help. Ds2 goes there too.
We signed him up initially because we were new in town & country(language) & wanted ds to have contact with other kids & also help with hw in the 2nd language.
The leader of the place is a man (all other staff are female), I'll call him X. He is very 'hands on', cuddly touchy feely with the kids. Tbh at first I was a bit concerned but he really does seem like a really really lovely bloke and he has helped ds & me out a lot in the last year.
Ds now really doesn't want to go. He was bullied at the last school & we had loads of meetings with the head to sort it out. Ds hated this and it has led to him being unwilling to tell us if there is a problem, as he doesn't want us to go to the school & have the aggravation.
I feel awful even thinking this, as X is so lovely, but part of me wonders if I should be worried? All ds will say is that X isn't very nice anymore and is bad tempered or grumpy with him and won't let him play with his friends. I am not clear if he is now grumpy and bad tempered with everyone (ie if other kids feel the same) or if it's just directed towards my ds, or if there is something more I should worry about. Can't get ds to talk anymore but would love suggestions on how to deal with it.