leaving 4 years between children

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I have one DD aged 3. We would really really love to have another child, but this year is going to be a nightmare, we are closing our business and moving countries, so that involves moving house/job/friends etc etc, and i cannot contemplate being pregnant while going through all that. I want to enjoy my second pregnancy, and that means being settled in our new home. But, this means that DD will be at least 4 before we have a second child, and this gap is worrying me. Can anyone reassure me that this will not be too much of a gap please...? or should i just get on with it.....?

My kids are aged 7, 11 and 16 at the moment. I LOVE the big gaps - you can enjoy each baby without worrying about jealous toddlers, there is minimal sibling rivalry, and there is the built in babysitting thing at some point.

My kids get on really well - we are just planning what I accept will probably be our last "big" family holiday with the five of us which makes me a bit sad, but it's easier to let go of the eldest when you know you have a long way to go with the youngest

I had a gap of 4 years 4 months between mine.It meant ds was old enough to be excited about the baby-he had had all the precious baby time to himself.Dd was born in August and ds started school in January so he saw a tiny non threatening baby at home and he had the 'big boy' experience of school.I really recommend a 4 year gap.

Another for a 4 year gap here.

I have 2 DS's 4 years apart and I love it. Was great having time with DS1 and then having lots of time with DS2.

They are very close and have a great relationship.

There is 5.3 yrs between my two and they get on great. At 7 and 2 they play together a lot more than I would have expected.

Like other posters I would hate to have 2 close together (double buggies, 2 in nappies, no individual attention) and get the impression a lot of peole are just doing it like that because of the fear of age-related infertility.

In my humble opinion, any gap will work. Whats most important is what is right for you.