helping 4 year old with friendships

[littlebylittle]

my dd is very sociable but not always sure in the right way. She's sort of not with the little group of friends she had last year at pre school any more. know (because "helpful" parent told me outright) that one of them doesn't like dd, but couln't face asking why. had parent consultation and their view wa that dd has llots of ideas for games encouraged others to join in etc, but admitted that she wasn't great at taking on board others' ideas. We also have occasional pushing still and sulky over the top behaviour if things don't go her way. How can I help? Or should I just let her get on with it?

Is she happy with the situation? If so just leave her to it. Otherwise, ask her who she likes to play with at school and then ask them round to play.

mostly, although does mention a couple of the children and ask if they can come to play. and I know this isn't going to happen cos it's the one whose mum has said no thanks!

should add that since it's happened |I have been arranging play dates outside pre school with established friends. and have asked a couple of children from outside this little "group " toplay. feels a bit like social engineering!

Nothing wrong with social engineering. Give it a go. It could open all kinds of door for your dd. If it doesn't work, then you never have to ask those particular kids round again.