For ages now my DS would be happy enough going to school but once we get to his classroom he refuses to go in and gets upset and needy, the teacher has had to drag him in crying a few times as he wont go and in and sit down and if we walk him to his desk he doesnt want us to leave.
It's his first year at primary school, a big deal i know but he went to playschool the year before.
Then when my DP was discussing his progress report with his teacher she said he was doing fine in most areas but not doing well socially and sometimes just doesnt want to pay attention to the teacher.
Then she went on to mention that she's found him alone in the playground lots of times during break and lunch and he has came to her several times and told her that he feels really lonely.
Admittedly, there's only 7 in his class. 2 other boys and him. She says that most of the time 2 boys will play which leaves the other one out and they change who's left out from day to day. I think DS is left out mostly.
DS also went to play school with these kids. The vast majority of his play school friends went to another local religious school (we're not really a religious family) about 5 mins further than DS's school and he often says he misses them too.
It makes me want to cry just thinking about him being so lonely at school and that maybe this is were all the problems are coming from. The teacher said today to DP that he lashed out at another boy in class today and was basically telling DP to discipline him (which we have). But i think this is because if i were DS and someone didnt want to be my friend and i was painfully lonely i wouldnt want to be nice to them either.
DP is going to have another chat with DS's teacher in the morning and hopefully not get "ummed" and "ahhed" at and fobbed off again.
I believe that social interactions should at least be encouraged at school and not just education. Lets face it, it was the social side that made me feel good about being there and made me confident enough to do the work i was given.
I've always maintained that the most important thing you can give a child is self esteem and i always try to encourage and praise him and love seeing him achieve and be happy.
But all i see when i ask my son to do his homework is a little upset boy with no confidence left like it's all been taken out of him during the day. He hardly wants to look at it. It just makes him upset, its not like it's hard HW and something he cant do but he had absolutely no confidence to even look at it.
He's a smart boy and he has been quite sick and missed some school recently but i think everyone has made "clics" and he's just not in one.
DP is going to tell the teachers to encourage him socially because we cant be there to do it ourselves.
If it doesnt improve dramatically i'll be ringing up the other school and asking them if they have a free space for him starting P2 in Sept. But they have full classes. Which is why i think he'd have more friends and not be pushed out so much.
I just don't know what to do. I've personally given up/cant stand talking to his P1 teacher because she makes it out to be nothing.
I seriously need some guidance about this. I dont think i have anyone who i could talk to about this who would understand.
I know this is long winded and thank you for reading this.
What would you do?? I feel like crying. Life shouldn't feel like this for a 5 year old. I feel so bad for having to force him to do HW which takes 3 hrs when it would normally take 20 mins and have to put him in time out because he refuses and just cries his wee heart out It's terrible but i dont want them to make fun of him for being "stupid" for not doing his HW and falling behind in class.
He's not a bad boy, he's happy to talk to everyone and is a sunny bright child, always smiles at home and plays great with his little sister.
I really need some advice girls, pls pls pls. I can't see my son go on being unhappy