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I feel sooooo guilty

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coolma · 27/02/2010 11:05

...But there's nothing I can do about it dd2 who is 4 goes to full time nursery - it's a gorgeous little nursery and she does really like it, buuut, recently, she's been saying she doesn't want to go every day - I think it's mainly as her 'best friend' is only part time. I know I'm being silly, and that she's benefitting enormously etc etc, and when I pick her up she is happy as larry and always has been all day... but doesn't it just make you feel shit? she goes from 8.15 till about 4 most days, sometimes she doesn't start till 9 ish. Is it too much for her? Am I a career obsessed mother from hell? I do love my job and it's vital that I work for us to to keep our heads above water. I think I just feel really bad that she's there all the time. Does anyone else have this feeling? Am I, in fact, making sense ??!!

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2catsand1rabbit · 27/02/2010 13:49

I really don't know what you expect people to reply to this? Yes, put your career before your child, don't feel guilty...

waitingforbedtime · 27/02/2010 13:51

woah thats a bit harsh - she said she has to work to keep heads above water?

Have you thought about cutting down hours in any way?

Lulumaam · 27/02/2010 13:52

if you have to work ,and most families need two incomes to keep going, guilt is pointless, surely she'll be in school full time in september if she is 4 now, so, it's not that different

it is hard to juggle everyhting and find a balance, but if you have to work, then needs mst and guilt is pointless

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TanteRose · 27/02/2010 13:55

if you are in the UK she'll be going to school in a few months anyway....
My DCs were in kindergarten (we are not in the UK) from 8:30 til 3:30 everyday from about aged 3. They loved it. I loved it! what's the prob?

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coolma · 27/02/2010 14:03

That's why I said 'am I making sense'?! I know it's silly and yup, nasty comments aren't needed. just wanted to be reassured I guess. I don;t think there's really a problem , just normal silly mummy guilt!

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2catsand1rabbit · 27/02/2010 14:29

Problem solved then!

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coolma · 28/02/2010 13:47

Indeed. I just need a good slap! She's really excited about going back tomorrow now, so I am now feeling guilty that I am such a bad mother she doesn't want to be with me...ARGHHH!

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zuzkah · 28/02/2010 14:25

It seems to me that you are a loving mum otherwise you wouldn't feel guilty. Kids just love to copy and if her best friend is only part time all she wants is to say: 'Me too!' cheer up!

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coolma · 28/02/2010 14:39

Thank you! You'd think after three children, I'd be wise to their 'games' and have worked off at least a bit of the guilt but it just seems to get worse! My middle son goes to after school club part time and whenever he just briefly may mention 'I don't really fancy it today' I'm in pieces!

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