I feel so ill and neglecting the kids a bit

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Argh just need a bit of a moan

Been pretty ill of late. A chest infection which began weeks ago (on second lot of antibiotics) and a vomiting bug this week. I feel drained, exhausted and a bit down

Kids have also been ill and up during the night. My Dh and MIL have been great but of course can't be here all the time. I just feel my kids are suffering for it. My eldest watches much more TV than he usually does and my baby is just left to roll around the floor or sit playing with toys (she is nine months). She is napping a lot because she has been ill as well. I don't interact with her as much as I should, although she gets lots of cuddles. We have been stuck in.

I know it is just a bad patch but I feel a bit lonely. I have not been seeing friends as much. I haven't shaved my legs or worn make up in weeks. My Dh and I are just getting through and not making much time for each other. I feel like a rubbish mum really

feeling really ill and beating yourself up mentally? Ouch! I'm sure the kids know you are a good mum and understand that you aren't well ad it sounnds like you have good support as well.

I would focus on getting yoursel better, as soon as the sun comes out and you feel better you will be good as new. You're not superhuman after all.

Take care of yourself - your children are safe and perfectly happy. It's been a vile, dark winter, but the days are getting longer and you'll all start to feel better soon.

Take care of yourself and don't worry about it. The kids are probably happy to be left to their own devices a bit. A couple of weeks of extra TV won't do any harm - your DS may think it's a great treat!

Don't feel guilty and don't beat yourself up. If your baby is rolling round and playing herself, she's learning independence and she's working things out for herself - these are important skills.

Thanks guys. I just feel stuck in such a rut. Would like to add that I do keep an eye on my baby, I read my post and it sounds like I just leave her in a room to fend for herself! Today my DS watched about an hour and a half of TV and that whole time I lay on the sofa whilst my DD rolled around (I had to rescue her a few times from possible perils). I just need to rest and get better, I feel like an old woman

better days are coming

I could have made your post a few weeks ago - it will get better. And DS seems none the worse for a few days of excessive beebies! It's dreadful though, isn't it - you feel physically rubbish and you have this load of guilt on top! Hope you feel better soon, and don't beat yourself up (if you're anything like me, I always get down and lose my sense of proportion when I'm ill - I'm sure you're not doing as badly as you think you are).