please someone tell me this broodiness will go away finding it unbearable

[luckylam81]

Hi there

ds only 11 weeks old and from about 2weeks old all i have thought about is having another baby!! i am finding it really difficult to cope with as dh definitely does not want anymore (dd 3.5yrs) i am finding some days i cant think about anything else,when really i know deep down should just be enjoying my lovely children i have just now instead of thinkin about more!

i'm hoping its just hormones and that this extreme broodiness will go away,does anyone else have experience of this and has anyone else dh been very against having more and changed their minds in time? thats what im hopin for in the long run really

thanks

Hi, I experienced this after my DD was born and it was definitely the post-natal hormones. The broodiness 'peaked' at around 14 weeks and then started to settle - probably by around 6 months. To be honest, because I could sense the feeling settling - down that in itself helped me..

I was broody right after DC1 was born - solved it by concieving DC2 11 months later.

After DC2 it took a few years for the broodiness to kick in - still struggling with it now, not sure how this is going to end yet!

DH would quite like a 3rd, though, which doesn't help when I'm trying to be rational!!!

my dd is 12 weeks and all i think about is how i want more children! But dh now says only wants 1. So upset as we'd agreed 2 although i'd really want 3. I think he's found fatherhood more difficult than he expected but i'm loving every second. Trying to not think about it and hoping he'll change his mind when she's a little older and he can interact with her more. But to be honest the thought of dd being an only child is getting me down when i should be happy with our beautiful daughter. Surely it's wrong for him to just change the goalposts like that?

Carolina - give him time, he's still getting used to being a dad. It took dh a year to agree to no2. I have been broody on and off since ds2 was born 9months ago. Unfortunately dh definitely says no more. I'm waiting for my hormones to go away!

my DH wasn't fussed about having children at all;he is now the devoted daddy of 2 DDs! It was about 2 years after DD1 that i got him to agree to another; both times, he found the baby stage really difficult but he is fab with DD1 who is 3.5.
i felt broody about a year after dd1, exacerbated by the fact that lots of my friends were having their second and third children!
good luck ( and congratulations on your DS!)

Have you got room for 3? You need to give your body time to recover but you could "forget" contraception

thanks girls i hope same happens to me mummy369 and this feeling starts to subside a bit

its so weird for me to feel like this as after dd i had undiagnosed pnd and was adamant that i didnt ever want any more kids as i found the whole experience really hard,but now second time round ive went the totally opposite way,this makes me think that it is allhopefully just crazy hormones.

muddle not sure i can wait another 6 months for hormones to go away altho did feel it took me a good 10/11 months to feel 'normal' again after dd

carolina i hope your dh changes his mind but its very early days for him being a daddy and i think your def right in saying he'll enjoy parenthood more as your dd your older,i suppose to quite alot of people newborns/babies arent that interesting altho incredibly cute!

another thought i have which i know is totally irrational (but need told by you guys) is that how can dh look at dc and not want anymore,i feel like if he loved them that much he'd want more?

tabby yes have room for 3 using condoms just now booked to get coil back in a two weeks,couldnt do that anyway!want us both to want 3 x

My dd is 7 weeks and I have also been preoccupied by thoughts of more babies. It's not that I want another baby now but dd is our 3rd child and we decided that 3 is the maximum. I keep thinking things like 'I will never be pregnant again' and as dd grows 'I will never have a newborn again', it's the thought of never that bothers me. I'm very happy with 3 dcs and my logical part of my brain doesn't want anymore but I think I might find it difficult when dd is 2yrs or so.

I had my only period of broodiness shortly after ds was born.

It is entirely hormones. I can't stand being pg or newborns, though love kids and am having second one soon, now ds is 3.

Wait a year, see how you both feel. You could both feel totally differently by then.

Good luck.

thanks,i love mumsnet feel better already knowing im not a total maniac!

singsong i def feel a bit like that too,and part of me wonders if its because i know we're very unlikley to have anymore that i want it more you know so if dh was keen for more i maybe less interested,my mind is warped by crazy hormones!

one of my friends fell pregnant with the coil so i'll maybe get a wee miracle 3rd eventually x

get one of your friends to call you every 2 hours, day and night, for a month. That'll sort you out

lol@Highlander! It is definitely a hormonal thing and will pass don't worry. Do you actually want another baby or just like the thought of one?

I have four and in the evenings I have to get up LITERALLY every single minute to help with homework, change someone, feed someone clean up, type something, find crayons, turn something on, brush someone;s teeth etc etc etc.

I don't mind at all in fact I'm used to it - however just know what you are getting yourself into in advance.

I found after baby no 3at the stomach muscles no longer "snap" back in so you end up looking 4 months pregnant all the time .

But if you do want more then good luck. A little flattery will go along way "Oh she's just like you! She's got your smile awwww!"