I am stupid Out that ds and friend have been printing off porn pictures

[nimy]

Hi
I know how foolish I will look but recently we put a computer in 9 year ds's room and we hadn,t got round to putting a child lock on.
Ds has been using it all innocently for the last 2 weeks on his own we know this because dh can track where he has been so on.
Ds had a mate over last night now I don,t for a minute think my ds is an angel but I am pretty sure the freind would be behind the idea to look for this sort of thing he is a bit of a rogue and a handful.
Now I feel really bad because whether it was the friends idear or not this freind has been exposed to this in my house and I feel at fault and of course about my own ds as well.
Do you think that I should tell his mom whats happened.

yes, you should tell the other boys mum

and I guess I don't have to tell you now to get the child protection software on and supervise your childs internet use much more closely

Yes. Because she may want to talk to her son about this kind of thing.
And explain that its a new computer and this weekend you're putting the internet security/parental controls on.
Don't blame the other boy, just say that DH has checked and your son hasn't been on these websites before, otherwise you wouldn't have let him and his friend play on the internet.

Okay I feel really bad they have googled for it dh has found that out but they had only started doing it last night. I just happned to find the pictures hidden under a toy box.
I didn,t think they would think to look for this just goes to show.

dh has disconnected the internet for now and has shredded the pictures.

What did you mean your thread title to say as I can't work it out.

I am that a 9 year old even knows about porn. My son is nearly nine and wouldn't have a clue.

Why does your 9 yr old DS have a computer in his room?

I won't even let my 14yo have a pc in her room

she has a laptop, but is only allowed to use it in communal living areas

no child under 16 should have a pc in their room imo

and the 16 is only if they are responsible and mature and understand net security

Well I am pretty certain that ds didn,t really have any idea about porn.
On speaking to him it seems that a freind he had earlier in the week told him to google for this as he got the idea off another friend.
Dh only tracked back as far as thursday they have been looking since then I have since found out.
I think that they were not specifically looking for porn they have probably not heard of the word well ds wouldn,t have anyway.
The idea to google for naked girls has been passed down between friends and of course things much worse than that have come up although I don,t dispute that googling for naked girls is bad enough at this age.
I realise now that I have been a bit misguided in my decision to let him have the computer in his room I suppose I thought at his age he wouldn,t have the inclination to search for things of that nature.
The only thing he has done himself is go on cbbc and play games and match attack etc.
I didn,t expect friends to think of it either.
It looks as though the computer will be coming out of his room.

nimy, think of this as a lesson well-learned

keep the pc in communal family areas

kids are kids

tbh, I don't trust to good luck or good sense with either of mine

although they are good kids, as they get older, peer pressure comes more and more into play

my 14 yo is out this evening...she says at a birthday party

I am and will be going to collect her shortly, with a big nose around to see exactly what is going on

There is a fairly good free programme available from here. It has password control to allow access to more adult sites if required.

Blue Coat Systems who allow this programme for free to non-commercial users are big in security systems for major corporations.

Anyway, it's good and it's free - hope this is of some help.

Agree AnyFucker.

We had a comparable problem recently with 12yo DD1 but it was on the PC that is in full view of everyone in the living room. Goodness knows what they would get up to if they had PCs in their rooms. Partic with bad-influence friends over.

No way will they be having computers in their rooms for the forseeable future!

AF - what was your daughter doing?

DH put a password bock on our house computer last week as the children have been googling. Nothing at all that isn't appropriate but sometimes google can throw up something you wouldn't want them to see. It is a pain for them and me but better that than them finding something unpleasant.

Just be aware though, that even child protection software isn't 100% secure.

A couple of years ago DS1 and his friends managed to access a hard core porn site on the school computer. Why they hell 9 year olds were googling "naked grannies" is beyond any of us, but what they found was nothing related and very .

morning fab

my dd turned up 10 mins after my post saying she hadn't gone to the party after all

what was giving me a little twinge of was that she had gone out with no birthday card/present to a "party" at someone's house and when I tried her mobile it was switched off

anyway, I am rather suspicious of her, which drives her mad tbh, but hey-ho

Tough, if she behaves suspiciously you can't help wondering.

hexackerly

You have to keep abreast (!) of new filtering/parebtal control stuff, as they do get out of date.
We had a new computer, and before dh installed protective stuff, I googled First Direct- except it came up Fist Direct (crap typing) and a full on video.
It was horrible...and mesmerising.
LynetteScavo- the idea of naked grannies conjures up all sorts of wrinkled hell!
They're only doing online what we did with "dirty" books as teenagers- trouble is what they see is a hell of a lot more graphic.

Fist Direct

more of a face and
Didn't believe it was anatomically possible.

About a year ago (DS1 was 8), he and his friend snuck off when I was on the phone and attempted to Google "Bum stuff" on the computer in the lounge (general boy obsession with bums I think)

Fortunately they'd gone on to Google maps, so just found Bumhole Arizona or something.

I go hot and cold at the thought of what they might have seen ..........

Parental controls went on quick

The one to watch out for is mobile phones. My DS told me that this friend who is 10 showed him some porn that he had on his phone and told DS that when he gets his phone he will send the pictures to him.

I was really pleased that DS told me and also felt confident enough to talk about how awkward he felt in how to deal with the situation as he doesnt want it on his phone but he is worried about name calling etc by saying no.

He has a phone now, but he doesnt take it to school. At the moment the boys (year 6) appear to be discussing words such as c**t, so DS and I have had discussions about rude words, what they really mean and why we don't use them.