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8yo party, have limited the numbers and one Mum asked OH in the playground why her DD wasn't invited..... WWYD?

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webchick · 12/02/2010 19:40

Party in a few weeks to a local cinema, asked 6 girls from school, 2 from elsewhere.

So how would you explain yourself to the said pparent who quizzed OH in the playground giving the story " ...they are best friends you know.." when I know they're not really. Should I just ask her or stick to my original plan? I' a non-confrontational person and reckon the easier way out is just to invite her.

FYI my house is quite small and will be overloaded with kids who are coming back for pizza after the cinema.

Opinions thanks!

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liahgen66 · 12/02/2010 19:41

stick with original plan

Very rude to ask imo. What did oh actually say to her.

thisisyesterday · 12/02/2010 19:42

i would stick with it and if she asks again i would jsut say that it's limited numbers and that your dd chose who she wantes

Lonicera · 12/02/2010 19:42

I wouldn't invite her - stick to your guns - what's done is done

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fishie · 12/02/2010 19:49

why do you think she wants her daughter to come webchick? it is very rude of her to put your dp in that position.

Blackduck · 12/02/2010 19:52

Don't give in. Say limited numbers and invites have gone out....thin end of the wedge otherwise..

CarGirl · 12/02/2010 19:52

The response is surely "I let dd choose which friends to invite"

joe999 · 12/02/2010 19:52

Stick to your guns. Bit cheeky of her to even mention it - she's braver than me

sugartits · 12/02/2010 19:53

I'd prempt any further questions by approaching her and explaining that the numbers are limited and your dd has invited her closer friends first.

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webchick · 12/02/2010 19:53

OH let her do all the taking and just nodded his head and pleaded ignorance! Typical!

She's quite friendly with the other 6 girls but really I didn't think she was that friendly with DD.

Luckily we're off for 10 days so hopefully she'll have dropped it by then.

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lou031205 · 12/02/2010 20:02

Weelll... a lot of threads on here are from the non-invited child's parent, asking what to do, and a lot of the responses tend to be "just ask why she wasn't invited".

So although I wouldn't ask myself, perhaps she was just trying to find out if there was a problem between them.

In anycase, all you have to do is say that you asked your DD who she would like to invite, and invited accordingly.

SixtyFootDoll · 12/02/2010 20:04

I wouldnt say anything unless she asks you directly.
If she does just say 'we told dd she could only invite 6 and thats who she chose, its up to her.'

mrspoppins · 13/02/2010 00:40

Saying nothing looks to me like you are avoiding the issue and it makes it an issue...If I were the Mum, and if I were I don't think I would have asked anyhow..bit cheeky and presumptuous..but I would like you to come to me and say...listen, about her party...sorry..numbers were so limited that in the end it was whatever few got picked..They haven't fallen out or anything you know...just wanted to reassure you...anyhow, did you have a giood half term?

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