How to talk about the things that matter with my dd

[MeAndMyGirl]

hi this may seem a silly question but how do you talk to your dcs about the important stuff? in my family we don't talk but ignore the problem and just kinda scuttle around it if we have to talk about it. my parents are lovely by the way just a different perspective
i want to change as am the same as parents and don't want to avoid talking about important issues with my dd. even at the moment she asks me questions about her dad who she has not seen for 2 years, and i can hear the words inside but i can't get them out.
any ideas???

This might sound daft - but it works for me! If I hesitate to talk about something to a particular person - I practice the same talk on someone easier. The it seems to come more easily. Is there soemone you could takl to about the issues you are finding hard to talk about with your dd - as a practice run?

Dh and I both came from the kind of families that ignored Big Stuff and hoped it would go away. I also don't intend to do the same.

You could have a Q&A box...questions are put in there and answers are answered in there. You let the other know there is a question or answer and take it from there...You could say...we're rubbish at talking about stuff but would you like to try something a bit crazy? it may even get you talking and one of your questions could be, shall we do this over a hot chocolate!

Keep the lines of comunication open by being light hearted about it. I used to ask mine their opinion about something...contrived but they didn't know that!!

There's a book by Miriam Stoppard which I like, and have used. - covers all sorts of social, emotional and religious issues. Has examples of the sorts of questions children ask, and how to answer, according to the child's age.

Called :

"Questions children ask, (and how to answer them)"