Is getting broody normal as school age approaches?

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I have namechanged because I have been resolutely determined that DD would be an only child.

Now she is approaching school age and I'm getting broody, at least I think I might be. I think I might be starting to get the rose tinted specs about babyhood that people used to tell me about and I thought they were totally off their rocker. Now I'm thinking how great it has all been, how DD is just soooo fantastic now. I really did not like the baby days, I was terribly anxious as a first time mum, but I've evolved into a very relaxed and self assured preschooler mum. I'm starting to think I might actually enjoy it a second time because I wouldn't be hung up on all the worries I was last time.

Is this true broodiness or am I just nostalgic for DD's baby days? Did anyone else have this sort of an age gap, what are the pros and cons?

My DD's an only and started school september.
I've had much the same feelings as you. Being mum to a little one has been among the best years of my life.
And it fills me with the horrors when I think about how quick the time will go by now that we're ticking it off term by term and I see my neices and nephews (who I still think of as small) leaving school.

So are you thinking of going for it then paisleyleaf?

Sometimes life just seems so good with just DD, but then....

It took 3 years to get DD. And then would've wanted another from anytime after DD was around 1 - but it hasn't happenned
But TBH though, now the age gap has got this big, I do change my mind every time I think about it.
Like you life's good with DD. I also don't know how much she'd actually thank me for a sibling now either.
I'm building up my work/wages again. And it would've been useful for DCs to have shared a room - DD does like her space and quiet time.

If you've got the space in the house I think it could be quite good to have the age gap, as the new one would have that time with you while your older DD is at school.

I don't know.

Sorry it hasn't happened for you yet paisleyleaf, I hope it does soon if you don't decide against thing.

Twopeople I think you have hit the nail on the head, I'm happy either way - it doesn't bother me if DD was an only but I also think that another might be nice too, but I'm not feeling a desperate need for another. I don't feel like I should or want to, but that I could do and I wonder what it would be like. However, if I don't like it I can't stuff a new one back up can I?

I have been feeling really sad that ds is heading towards school as it has caused all those feelings to surface.

Ds is an only child and Dh is very firm that he doesn't want more children and pretty much won't discuss it any further.

I got really upset last year when ds left play school and moved to school nursey as it felt like the end of an era. Most importantly I suppose, an era I'm not quite ready to give up. I'm pretty sure that it will all resurface at the end of the year when he leaves nursery ready for reception.

I must admit that life is getting easier in some ways now and I would probably struggle to get my head round starting again but don't think I've quite come to terms with the fact that he will be an only yet either.

flinky I was the most anxious new mum ever to my DS.
I had had a very high risk PG and traumatic birth and I think it effected me badly now looking back.
My mum said I looked like a coiled spring until he was 10 months old!
I used to grind my teeth so badly in my sleep id wake up with an aching jaw.
I was terrified of everything and anything and found it tough mainly due to him having bad reflux.

I now have an 8 week old DD and the PG was very smooth although I got very anxious about the birth leading up to it. The birth was great, went well.

I was amazed at how relaxed I was when I had her. It is so different with a second.
In my case she has reflux badly too and again, im finding it very tough at times but im not anxious and Im not grinding my teeth down to stumps in the night!