dd 4 would give super-nanny a challenge

[elmofan]

hi , dd 4yrs is still sleeping in our bed aagggghhhhh , no matter what i try with her i just can not get her to stay in her own bed , she falls asleep in our bed then i carry her into her own bed then within an hour or two she runs back into our bed , dh is nagging me to get dd to stay in her own bed as he usually receives a few kicks from her during the night, i have tried the supernanny method = returning her to her bed without talking etc but after 22 nights of her screaming at the top of her voice & getting no sleep i gave up . anyone got any fresh ideas ? please tia x

DS1 was firmly attached to my bed, and when DS2 was due I decided it had to stop, because I couldn't cope with both of them there. DS1 was 3.5 at the time.

I used bribery. He got a toy if he did a night in his own bed. Gradually it changed so that he had to do more nights in his bed to get a toy. And now he's in his own bed all the time, without needing a reward.

I'm sure super-nanny would disagree with bribery, but I don't care - it wasn't her getting kicked all night!

why doesn't supernanny talk to the child - does she think they are mind readers?

i do behaviour management work and when i have hands free will reply

Let her sleep with her sister? That was my solution!

rebecca might just give bribery a try , im desperate at this stage ,
hobbgoblin - would love to get some advice from you please , she has atopic eczema , therefore the itch wakes her up & she runs straight into our bed , i put her to bed at 8pm , but i swear as regular as clock work she will be awake by 10pm , then i have to go to bed so she can lie in beside me ,
redshoes - lol she has an 11yr old brother who i really don't think would agree with letting her near his room

Ok, first of all what can she do to alleviate the itching. I realise there isn't a perfect solution but what 'works'? Is she able to apply her own cream for example?

I'm thinking that you could give her a 'Thing To Do' which isn't running in to you as a first stage solution, even if it is something like pressing a cold flannel against the itch or allowing her to dab a small amount of cream on...

thanks hobbgoblin , we actually had a great night with her last night , for the very first time i gave her a bath at 7pm , applied all her creams then gave her the antihistamine medicine(which i hate the thoughts of ) our GP prescribed for her last week , she fell asleep at 8.30pm woke up calling me at 11pm but i just went into her room cuddled her & tucked her back into her bed & she fell straight back to sleep until 3.30am then she ran into our bed , that is the longest time she has ever been out of our bed . i like your idea of giving her the creams to apply , she does love to help me put them on her after her baths but i never thought of letting her do it when she wakes during the night , i might leave her moisturising cream on her bedside locker tonight & ask her to put it on herself when she wakes up & see how she gets on . thanks for getting back to me i really appreciate it . x