I want a third baby but am afraid people will think...

[JemL]

..."oooh, are you trying for a girl?!?!"

I have 2 DS's and am delighted to be a mum of boys. Although I would have been happy if either of them had been a girl, I don't have any longing for a daughter that I have heard other mums with only boys talk about. However, I have always seen myself as having 3 children, and have been extremely lucky to have had straightforward pregnancies and births - albeit c-sections - both times, so at aged 30, another baby is still a realistic option. However, since having DS2, I have lost count of the number of times people have asked me if I will "try for a girl" next - even the midwife who visited when DS2 was a few days old!

I'd hate my boys to think they were less wanted than a girl, and if I had another boy, I'd hate people to say anything to him, even as a joke, as he got older. Anyone who has been in a similar position, I'd love to hear your experiences!!

What's it got to do with anyone else (other than your OH!) ? If you want another, then have another.

FWIW, it doesn't matter what you've already got Josephine Public will always find something to say aboiut it. In my case, already having a boy and a girl, it was "Why do you want another when you've already got one of each?"

We have 5 daughters.

To be honest even the people who said 'Must be a boy this time' or who say now 'Going for 6 then to get a boy?' (who are many) don't really bother me compared to those who, hearing we were having dc5, said 'Oh, you can't have a boy! You're only used to girls, you could never bring up a boy!'

DD5 is a lovely baby.

Don't let stupid people put you off having another child if you want one.

When people asked me what I was hoping for with dc3, I used to say I was hoping for one that sleeps.

Which I got. Third time lucky then .

I am pregnant with DC2 who turns out to be DD2, we're over the moon just as much as would have been if it had been DS.

What annoys me is that people keep asking me "oh so you'll be going for a boy after this one"!! Can't we just have her first and enjoy her before trying for another. When I tell people, no we're stopping at 2, they all say "oh you'll try for a boy"!

Now I may be naive saying we're stopping at 2 but if we do decide to have a 3rd, 4th, 5th etc it won't be to try for a boy as we know it'll turn out to be girls! Which again we'd be over the moon with!

But, in your case, just ignore the comments, or go with the baby elephant

I had DS1 then was asked if I was going to 'try for a girl'.

Became preg with DS2 and was told 'better luck next time'.

Preg with DS3 and someone said '3rd time lucky'

Am preg again and this time the baby is supposedly a girl - 2 scans say so but until I see for myself will not believe it. I was excited for about an hour, now I have gone back to not believing and actually am thinking I am not sure what I will 'do' with her.

Family know that the sonographers think this one is a girl and got prattish comments from some of them, but have not told anyone else really as can't be arsed with all the 'bet you're ecstatic' type comments because, actually, no, I'm just glad the baby is ok.

they will say it

but ignore

After having had a boy and a girl many people were puzzled when I announced a 3rd pg. How could I want another when I already had "one of each"?

One person even said "Didn't you know you are supposed to stop at two?"

'Tis all nonsense.

We have 4 dds and I have never wanted a boy, not sure why perhaps I just feel more comfortable with girls because that's all I've ever had! With my last pregnancy I'd managed to get the point that I didn't mind either way but was still a little relieved when it was another girl.

Also, I am a 3rd girl with a younger brother.

I have never felt that my parents kept trying until they had a boy, they have done an excellent job of making us all feel equally loved.

Have a ds and dd and expecting no 3 so get comments along the lines of:

a)Was it planned? to which I raise eyebrows as if to indicate how crass, although secretly tempted to say "Yep, was riding him like a bronco"

b) Don't suppose you care what you have?
Well, a baby would be nice, but dd wants a duck.

c) You showing already? (didn't show much with first two, this one bucking the trend!)
Are you saying I'm fat? (evil grin at massive back-tracking)

But really most ppl are just showing they are interested/excited for you, it's an conversational ice-breaker and it's not unkindly meant so I put the vitriol on ice