Are we too old at 43 and 50 to have B2?

[holsareacoming]

Im 43 and dh is 50 have one 5 yr old DD - just want to know your thoughts on the age thing

holsarecoming- Dh and I are older parents. We had ds2 on my 47th birthday, he is two and a half now and whilst a 'spirited' little boy, we have no regrets at all.

There are large age gaps between our children, the eldest is 27 and dd 13, and sometimes dh and I are mistaken for the grandparents...

I found the pregnancy much easier than the first two, had a section but was allowed home on day 2. Bf'd with no problem.

Age has been no hindrance whatsoever to us.

I would be interested to hear from parents who chose to have their children when 'older' maybe 15 years down the line.

I wonder whether it is harder to parent a teenager (who can be more exhausting than a toddler if mn be believed) when you are around retirement age.

I also wonder if financial difficulties are common if you still have dependent children when you want to retire.

I don't want to be contentious but these issues were present in my and dh's minds when we decided to push out our family as quickly as possible, as dh is a decade older than me and I was no spring chicken when we started having our children. It wasn't so much the idea of babies in our 40s and 50s that put me off, rather the idea of teenagers in my 60s.

go for it. my dad was 54 when i was born so don't worry

I think it depends on what kind of 40/50/60 year old you are kitkats. I'm 45 and still go to all night raves. I can't think I'm going to have much of an issue with a teenager in 10 years' time.

My parents are nearly 80 and still ski every year. Different for different people I'd say so I don't think you can generalise

in answer to the op - go for it

No reason why not, i had my first DD at 20 and i have just had DS at 37 i am now 38 and planning my 5th!

My dad had me when he was in his late 40's he died when i was 28 and whilst i miss him very much still i think i had a great childhood.

Crack on

'My fil was nearly 50 when dh was born, and dh is a quite bitter about it. FIL died when dh was 26 and it upsets dh greatly that his dad didnt really get to see our kids, dd was only a few months old when he died

This is sad but you really can't tell what life will bring. My FIL was nearly 50 when DH was born, my father was 27 when I was born. FIL is the one to see his grandchildren grow up-mine died before he even saw me marry.
Go for it-the main reason is that your DD will have a sibling to moan with if you do get old and aging! Age is a state of mind-I am an older mother but I bet I could run longer and further than a lot of young mothers on here!

It really is no fun being the only child of older parents, especially if those parents are ill for their age. My mum was 35 when I was born, and my dad was 43, but 40 years ago that was pretty unusual. My dad took early retirement when I was 13 and died when I was 22. He was constantly mistaken for my grandfather, which was embarrassing for both of us. I would have loved a sibling, less for the concrete help and sharing the 'burden', than just for the feeling that I wasn't alone with two people who were so far from my wavelength. However, there are a lot more 'older' parents of 35 plus around these days, which probably makes it easier for the children to deal with when growing up, I would imagine.