Do 'attachment parenting' mums have total 'buy in' from DH's?

[Undercovamutha]

Seem to have been reading a lot lately on MN about co-sleeping, bfing to sleep, 'slinging' baby a lot etc etc. It has made me remember a thread a good few months ago by a Dad who was kind of complaining about his DW's attachment parenting methods and views on sleep.

I am just really intrigued as to whether the majority of mums who 'do' attachment parenting, have the total 'buy in' from their DH's? I don't think my DH would be too pleased if our DCs were still in bed with us for example (but neither would I so we are in agreement!).

Attachment parenting seems very selfless and I admire people who do it, but I always wonder if it has negative effects on relationships or just the opposite?

{Disclaimer - not trying to be judgey - just curious and a little bit nosey!}

My DS is 17 months and never slept in a cot. He sleeps normally on the outside and DH and I chat and cuddle fine. Maybe because I have known nothing else for the past 4 years

I had no idea what AP was before ds. In fact i read very little about parenting. I co-slept cos ds wouldn't sleep any other way, BF but only to 5weeks as lots of probs, and bought a sling after 3 days of not eating any lunch, cos he wouldn't be put down!

I have to say dh prefers the baby bjorn to wrap sling, and now is going to get backpack type one. However ds has had a period in a crib and cot. Now he comes in with us about 4am. Dh not happy about it, but he isn't the one jumpin out of bed every 15mins. He is too swayed by the rod for back brigade that he works with.

We still cuddle up and chat in bed - ds2 isn't always in the middle and if we don't talk too loudly we can talk without waking him. If he does wake up he has a bit of boob and goes back off again. No drama.
We can also watch TV in bed on our portable TV -volume on low and have the subtitles on- without him waking up. So we don't feel like we're missing out - besides which we both love the family cuddles we have every morning.

I get people not understanding it - just like I don't understand controlled crying - horses for courses.

I used to get all defensive early on but now I don't give a monkeys!