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Toddler will not lie down!

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nellanella · 29/01/2010 08:31

Hello

sorry this is a continuation of another thread I started yesterday - 2 yr old suddenly not sleeping - but it is more than that - she will not lie down if I suggest sleep - not in the cot, not even on the floor this morning after she had been falling alseep in the high chair since being awake since 4am. I think it may be a form of seperation anxiety as she is also being clingy in the day if we are out at toddler groups etc. We cannot get her to stay in the cot at all and will cry really badly and took an hour to persuade her to lie down last night - anymore help would be much appreciated!

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EffiePerine · 29/01/2010 08:37

I'd back off a bit. Can you leave her to her own devices in her cot and not insist on teh lying down? Distract with a toy or something? Oh, and chant 'this too will pass' a lot.

EffiePerine · 29/01/2010 08:39

oh and if she gets upset at being in the cot I'd take her out - no point in her getting so wound up she won't sleep.

Is she teething at all? Does calpol do any good?

If none of you are getting much sleep, would you consider co-sleeping for a bit and trying to crack the cot thing when you're all more rested?

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nellanella · 29/01/2010 08:52

She won't even stand in the cot - she wants to get out and be cuddled. Is it possible it is teething? She seems fine in the day.

I guess the problem with cosleeping is that everything was fine until 4 nights ago and this has suddenly happened and we would then have to make another transition getting her back to the cot - I appreciate what you are saying - we are both upset at her getting upset.

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EffiePerine · 29/01/2010 09:06

Does she still have molars to come through? If she;s in pain with her teeth it may well be worse when she lies down, hence her getting upset at being in the cot. IME it's always worth trying calpol just in case!

If you're not keen on co-sleeping, what about staying in the room with her for a while - can you stick a mattress next to her cot? Maybe she needs a little reassurance at the moment.

crankytwanky · 30/01/2010 22:06

Mine's just getting over this. Around his 2nd birthday at the end Dec he seemed to become terrified of his bedroom.
I thought maybe he was fearful of Santa Claus?

I ask him to "show me" how he can lie down. And show me how he closes his eyes.

It's starting to get better. Was probably teeth.

MumNWLondon · 31/01/2010 11:57

how much day time sleep is she having? around 2- 2.5 many toddlers need to cut back on daytime sleep...

assuming she's just having 30 mins a day at bedtime, do whole bedtime routine and put her in cot... say goodnight and close door. leave her at least 10 mins - and when you go back don't pick her up just calm her. if she is tired she'll go to sleep.

bubblagirl · 31/01/2010 12:09

could she not be liking the cot maybe its time to get little bed with stair gate at her bedroom door

my son hated his cot and would put up such a fight going in the he didnt like being surrounded by the bars so we got him a little bed and would sit next to the bed read stories etc and the just sit and not interact etc just ssshhh go to sleep until he fell asleep and then gradually each night move further away from the bed until able to leave the room

also let him choose a night light and where he wanted his bed etc

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nellanella · 31/01/2010 12:18

Hello again

thank you so much for the posts - we are really trying to get things sorted! To try to answer all the points: DD has been having 2 hrs in the afternoon but recently has taken 1/2 hr or so at afternoon nap and in the evening to settle so I can see that - with much reluctance for me - maybe I cut back to 1 hr in the afternoon.

She has got an ear infection but keeps pointing to the ear that was not particularly red - only points when I ask so I am not sure if I have made the association for her - I have been giving ibuprofen for the last 2 days. I will maybe get the antibiotics tomorrow but dr said see how she goes first without them.

She seems absolutely fine in the daytime and is not in any way under the weather - I think what started off as the ear infection has become a refusal to go to bed and refusal to be left alone to try to go to sleep.

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Wolliw · 31/01/2010 20:13

My youngest, who is nearly two, sleeps in a full size mattress on the floor. When I put him to sleep, we go in together to his bed. We lie down together in the dark and I sneek out once he is asleep. This is aided by breastfeeding, but DH does a similar thing with our three year old.

It can take up to half an hour, but a nice lie down is much more pleasant than a fight. This form of partial cosleeping means that you and your partner can have your own bed to yourselves when your bedtime arrives.

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