how do you decide to have a third child?

[thirtysomething]

Just wondering how other people have decided to have a third baby - I've had two bad pregnancies (constant sickness) and one horrendous birth, plus two colicky babies but am still yearning for a third, especially as the older two are now settled at playgroup/school and a little bit less demanding ....

Hi, Thirtysomething

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I imagined myself in my 50's with just two children and wondered how I would feel if I had stuck at two and would I allways be wondering what it would have been like.The answer was yes I would so we now have 3.My motto is if in dout do it if you feel you might regret not doing it later.

Can't say I remember exactly how we decided - but I do recall it just seemed right (if you understand).

Result is we have three lovely (if very,very lively!!) sons aged 6yrs, almost 4yrs and just turned 1yr.

Yes, life is hectic but we manage (just about!).

And remember, each pregnancy is different - this one (if you decide to go ahead) might just be that
so far elusive, text book one. Even if it is not, you seem to have got over the other two (nature has a wonderful way with a womans memories of pregnancy, birth etc) and sound ready for number three.

Best wishes, whatever you decide.

We didn't.......she did!!!!!!!

I just felt, like codswallop, that I hadn't finished. DH took a while to convince what a good idea it was but now 26 weeks into this pregnancy he's as pleased as he was with our 2.

Good Luck and have fun.

I felt sure even before I had my first that I would wannt more than 2. Always thought 4 - worried that 3 is not good number - middle one etc, still I'm on 3rd pg right now, so we'll wait & see. 3 or 4 for me anyway.

we have just decided to go for number 3. After the birth of dd2 we said "enough" but in my heart I've always known that with 3 we would be complete. The fab thing is that my at the weekend my dh conceded that he too has always wanted a large family and logistics and commonsense aside he is thrilled that we will try for another.
Somehow I think you just know in your gut! Trust your basic instinct and best of luck and love to you.

or how about getting pregnant with twins and then swearing you will never have anymore ...ever!

Yeah, cuatardo, I was really hoping this would be twins - made sure doc had a really good rummage round, but alas, definitely only one in there, so now may have to go through all this again - jumping the gun a bit, I know, as only half way through cooking the 3rd

And what about deciding to have four? We had a real dilemma about whether to go for a third and I was sure that that would be enough and now I am not so sure.....

Sid, do what I did and state out loud for anyone to hear , that you definitely do not want any more children. Then wait about 10 days and voila, positive test!

I felt that two ought to be enough and that we would stick with 2, tho really in my heart I think I wanted 4. Dh and I are both eldest of 4.I had always had something against families of three and worried that one wd be left out. However, the nagging feeling that 2 wasnt enough just wouldnt go away, and so we decided to have a third. To my relief, after having no.3 I did feel that 3 was perfect and was absolutely sure, and still am as he approaches 4, that three is just right. I am certainly not going to start again now! (Old and exhausted) Occasionally I have thought that it made life harder for the older two, in terms of our time and them having to cope with a little one around messing with their stuff, not being able to do certain things because of him etc. But on the whole I am very glad to have had the chance to have three. Two just felt too neat and tidy for me somehow.
I really enjoyed and appreciated having time off work with no 3 too, perhaps even more than with the others as it meant I could also spend more time with them , get involved at school etc.

mirena fell out!