Parents with differing parenting styles - how to compromise ??

[Tillyscoutsmum]

DH and I have some different ideas about parenting. I wouldn't say we were at complete opposite ends but if you were to assume that Attachment Parenting was "1" on a scale of 1-10 and something like a Claire Verity/strict parenting style was a "10", I would say I was probably a 3 and DH would be about a 7.

He has ideas about our 6 week old ds needing to learn to not be held all the time and being left to cry to effectively teach him . I strongly disagree. He's full of "rod for your own back" type comments and we are arguing lots. He ultimately accuses me of not taking his comments on board and says I am incapable of compromise. But how do you compromise on something like this ?

Am I the only one with these issues ? Where are you and your partners on the aforementioned scale and how do you work out differences ?

Sounds like me and my dh, although our son is 20weeks now. Well basically I ignored him, and explained to him why etc. As he got to know ds as a person he got less and less that way.

Not much other advice really.

That's sort of what's happening at the moment but its not ideal and when DH looks after him, he does things his way

Just bumping

We were/are the same, can't really help though as I've told DH seeing as he's never here (deployed for 8 months atm and works away all week when he is in the UK) that he has to do it my way for the sake of the DC, we'd end up in a confused mess otherwise.

Still causes arguments though, as much as he agrees that we should take my lead, he finds it hard to stick to when he's around.

It gets easier. I sort of just didn't let him look after him. Not ideal I know.

You can always blame biology and say you can't help yourself but you just have to respond to him - it's a physical thing that just can't be controlled without you feeling physical pain .

Honestly - I do think nature does make us behave in a certain way when they're very young.