I simply can't take more of this, DDs health

[BooHooo]

DD is always very ill. She gets one infection after the other since she was a baby and it is ruining life .

If I were to list everything she has had since last September you would gasp - our GP did today and we are seeing a Pead. who is meant to be doing tests on her immunoglobulin (sp) but she hasn't been well enough for the blood test as yet.

She is ill now with tonsilitis and a raging fever I spent weeks, nights worrying if I have to call 999, I have just lost count of the hospitalisations and visits. Trying to get her to to take horrible medicine.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense I am sitting here in tears. What is wrong with her? I love her so much and she is always suffering what am I doing wrong as a Mum? Will she ever be healthy? I am always so worried, she misses pre-school so much I don't know why we pay sometimes. We rarely go out. I just don't understand. My friends children are so healthy, I am constantly talking about how ill she has been.
Thanks for reading I don't expect anyone to be able to do much.

You poor thing (and your DD), my heart goes out to you both. I have no idea what it could be obviously but surely her doctors will get to the bottom of it soon. Could it be some kind of auto-immune condition?

thank you, I don't know I have no clue but I just feel something is wrong. We have to wait until she is well before they blood test. I am just shattered

I don't blame you, I know it's not the same at all but my DD (7 months) has had the flu about 4 times already and it's just exhausting isn't it when they're poorly. But your DD's very young still, there's nothing to suggest that this will go on forever. Also, again I'm sorry I have no clue about this but have you thought about trying some kind of alternative medicine? Don't give up!

You poor thing.
It does sound like there may be an underlying condition, sounds like they are looking into immuno-suppressed issues already. Are the infections all tonsilitis or are they chest too? If so I would encourage you to push and push for tests as conditions can go undiagnosed (mine did for 33 yrs despite being just like you describe as a child) - Luckily nowadays they are more clued up so should be looking into everything, but it still often seems the case that the pushier you are the more gets done, unfortunately.
Is she on abs for the tonsilitis? Repeated courses can also affect general wellbeing and can make you quite sluggish etc so if she's been on lots that might be the case as well.
You sound exhausted, I do hope they get to the bottom of this and that your dd is better soon. all the best.

Thank you v much.

Yes she has been 4 courses of AB since sept and on one now so that always leaves her limp. Then she gets ill it is a vicious circle. They are open to testing when they look at her record, but they aso say she is tall and well looking so doubt it is anything serious. Well it seems serious to me

I am shattered thank you for replying.

boohoo You sound like me when my ds1 was small...he was ALWAYS ill - spring, summer, winter (although winter was always worst) I too lost count of the hospital visits and sleepless nights worrying myself silly.

Guess what? That baby is now 6.5 and a strapping lad who does karate!

I so feel for you and I know that the winter my son started pre school was the worst we ever had....truly awful (and we were havng an extention built at the time too!) He also had numerous blood tests but they ddnt find anything.

I would recommend a probiotic drink if she will take it to counter the effects of the ABs and also a vitamin tonic/iron tonic too which she can take every day.

My ds1 still has vit c and fish oil syrup every day (much to his disgust!)

Really hope things pick up for your dd soon x

Thank you becaroo. Many teachers tell me that often children grow out of these things and I am really hoping she will at some point soon. I am so glad your son did. i just can't see the wood for the trees right now

you poor thing, it must be exhausting. but it might not be serious. i was like this as a child myself - my mum used to despair and said i had a fever from somethign every few weeks in the winter for years. and i'm the same now i'm an adult - if i catch one illness (particularly flu) i am then ill for the whole winter. people think i'm just pathetic (particularly my husband who NEVER gets ill). maybe some people just get run down more easily. i always have the flu jab and look after myself really well (exercise, eat well, don't burn the candle at both ends etc) and that has made a huge difference.

I really appreciate all your kind words. I don't really talk about it in RL so this helps get my sadness out

Oh dear - my nephew is 2.5 has some sort of reduced immune system thing (can't remember what its called?) and is often ill - perhaps its similar?

Need to make sure ped runs every test to get to the bottom of it.

boohoo You must remember that you are worried, exhausted and (probably) pretty cheesed off with things right now....its ok to vent and let off steam and its ok to feel unhappy/sad (or even disappointed like I did ) that your child is not brimming with health like other peoples.

Re: testing...they will probably take a full blood count, liver and thyroid function tests and lymphocytes...they may even do a glandular fever test.

boohoo. I feel for you, the enhaustion and stress will be a vicious cycle for you. Maybe all the antibiotics have had a knock on effect.
Antibiotics wipe out all the good bacteria as well as the bad. Your health and immune system are 70-80% from the digestive organs and if her gut flora is lacking, so will her immune system. Antibiotics used often have a serious detromental effect on health.
Pro biotic drinks are useless. They have sugar in them which feeds the bad bacteria so waste of time and money.
Go to a health store and buy acidulphus from the refrigerator. It is the best type of pro biotic and will certainly help your DD's immune system even if it is an illness she has.

I had glandular fever at 15 and had anti biotics from then until 22 on and off. I am still suffering the effects now at 33. I really should do a yeast free diet for a year along with pro biotics and supplements as advised by my nutritionist but yeast free is one of the hardest diets and I keep slipping off the wagon !

Sorry, I should say the supplements and pro biotics have helped so much. I no longer catch everything going, infact im rarley ill. I have alot of stomach problems but the pro biotics help alot. The reason I need the diet is everytime I come off pro biotics the problem comes back but that different from your DD's problem.