In praise of having more than one child

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loads of hugs and cuddles all the time (the kids hug each other and give smoochy kisses to dd3 to make her laugh).

we can get a decent game of bowling going.

They play really well together (well 90% of the time).

Also someone there to look out for them when they are older.

Hopefully they will have a good reltionship with each like i have with my brother and sisters.

They are my girls and i love them to bits.

When after worrying for ages about how dd (3) would take to her new brother (6 weeks) she told us that when he grows up she wants to marry him.
(Thanks for the thread I needed reminding today why we wanted two - am very sleep deprived)

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Ds is a happy, smiley baby most of the time but no-one makes him laugh like his big sister does. She really looks out for him and he just adores her. 2 is gorgeous

Puddle lol at the Start rite advert.
Those expensive clothes will get another wearing as hand-me-downs.
There are lots of people to make a good game of Pop to the Shops.
There is always someone who wants a cuddle.
And just the joy of compare and contrast in the nicest possible way, the way they are all so different and yet so alike.

Disslocated that 2 socks book is just pants (see threads passim)

Oh yes WElshmum. When ds was only a few weeks old I found dd (5) in tears. When I asked why she said that one of her friends was going to marry him and it wasn't fair because she wanted to marry him .

DD1 tucking dd2's hair behind her ears so it wasn't in her eyes.
Watching dd1 coming out of school with a big grin and hug for dd2.... me as an afterthought lol!
The way dd2 simply adores dd1, and watches her with an open mouth in wonder.
The way dd1 nit checks dd2 in an absent minded way when watching tv!

I could go on and on...

Clary, No socks, shoes or hairbrushes - just pants? I have been trying to ignore it, I got myself in a right state before dd was born from reading every baby book under the sun and seem to be making the same mistake again!

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When I became pg with no.2 I wondered how I could love another as much as dd1 - now dd2 is here it is a fantastic to feeling twice as much love and more and share it between the two of them.

I waited a long time to have my second dd, my oldest was 7 when she was born, but it took me a long time to persuad dh to have another (he is alot older than me, and that was his reason). Before I convinced him, my dd1 used to tell me that she had frequent and vivid dreams that she was falling out of a window and that her sister used to grab her and pull her back in, saving her. She would get a bit choked telling me, and it took every ounce of willpower I possessed not to break down and cry. But as soon as I got out of the room, I would sob my heart out, because she was so desperate for a sister (or brother) and I was so desperate for another baby. Anyway, eventually I made dh see sense, and we had dd2. Even though there is 7 years between them, the relationship they have is amazing. My big girl is like a little mummy, always there to comfort and hug and cuddle her little sister, they play together all the time, giggling and chasing each other, reading books, lying under a blanket snuggling. I thank God and my darling husband every day for giving me my girls. Sorry to sound a bit ott, but I am sure lots of you will understand what I mean!

Both my sons are very young but I know it wont be long when they start playing with each other and I will not have to worry about to entertain them. There will be lots of free time for me hopefully.

I read that 2 socks book too and it really upset me, it made having more than 1 child sound like hell on earth. I was 28 weeks pregnant at the time so couldn't do anything about it. I'm now 36+4 and I am so glad that I found this thread, it reassures me that having 2 will be all that I hoped it would be. Can't wait for DS to meet the new baby, I think I'm more excited about seeing the 2 of them together than anything else.

disslocated and kate, that book should be banned for all those thinkign about number 2!
I couldn't beleive the bit where she says she never left the house until number 2 was a yr old!!! I would have gone bananas! (not to mention ds1 and dd). 2 is fine, you'll be amazed by how well you cope and how much love you have for them both.

DS1 could say DS2's name before his own. He always asks for something for DS2 if we are shopping without him. They laugh together so much that it's contagious. All the toys get used now - DS2 likes all the stuff that DS1 didn't. They both love getting into bed with us and tickling, bouncing, doing forward-rolls and hiding under the blankets.

Agree with Clary's description of the book. Having two under two is hard at times but someone should write a better account of it - anyone up for it?

My two fight like cat and dog when they are at home but when we take them out they defend each other furiously. My ds will always defend his big sister if anyone pushes her over, although we tried to discourage him attacking other children it makes you feel warm inside that he will look out for her and defend her.

Dh remained the only child since the age of 14. He really hates that part of his life apart from that period when he lived in joint family with his cousions. To him living alone in the house was very boring and he was always telling his mum that he wants to have a brother or sister.

According to my mil she had no problem bringing up ds2 and ds3 as they were close in age and giving each other comany.

Lovely thread thanks I'm pregnant with number 2 when DD was born always felt she needed a brother or sister as well, I can't wait to see her interact with DB.