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Loathing my children atm

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hmc · 18/01/2010 00:22

Strong words I know, but it's how I feel. They (5 and 7) argue constantly and try to embroil me in conflict resolution although I usually tell them to resolve it themselves.

They bicker and compete for love and attention and each claims I love the other more (I think I am pretty even handed as it happens)...everything is grossly unfair - apparently dd's portion of food is fractionally bigger than ds' or ds has had a longer bed time story (!!!). Sounds trivial but when it's the hundreth trumped up complaint of the day it gets you down.

DD seems to want to goad me and wind me up. She'll just take it upon herself to bar my way upstairs if I am going up to fetch something, or bar the entrance to the living room or just obstruct me for the sheer hell of it...She has explained that her brother winds her up and gets her agitated so she has to therefore get it out of her system by winding me up (!!!). This is not good - I have very little patience and end up raging at her and subsequently feel guilty for shouting.

I'm not a push over and can be quite strict. I set boundaries. But the children are very very testing atm. I actually went up to bed this afternoon and left them to dh, because I couldn't bear to be with them any longer.

Just needed to offload

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DollyMessiter · 18/01/2010 00:25

Oh sweetheart
We've all been there.
Can you plan something lovely for yourself - a night out with friends, a looooong bath whilst DH child-wrangles?
A little child-free time will make all the difference, I'm sure.

(and if not, just pretend you're being filmed for a parenting programme. I've resorted to this when tempted to lock children in cupboard whilst under extreme duress. )

hmc · 18/01/2010 00:30

Thanks - yes, am obviously feeling a bit battle weary. Probably do need to indulge myself in some way so I can rejoin the fray, ready to 'fight' anew

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DollyMessiter · 18/01/2010 00:33

Recharge your batteries and fling yourself back into the family fun and buy a cattle prod .

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hmc · 18/01/2010 00:38
  • I will.

Thanks for pointing out that I need to do that - it seems obvious now, but until you suggested it, this genuinely hadn't occurred to me (you know when you get in a downward spiral and can't think straight?). You're right, I do need a break from the drudgery - for sure. Off to bed now - thanks for the empathy

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DollyMessiter · 18/01/2010 00:45

I think we forget to take care of ourselves when we're busy taking care of everyone else.
Sleep well.

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