My father cheated on my mother. They split up when we were kids.
She gave us some hazy reason at the time but then for the rest of my life she basically put across to me that all men are cheating shits.
So I went into my relationships with this baggage and it has become a self-fullfilling prophecy as I am now leaving a man who cheated on me for 20 years, see my other threads if you'd like more background.
It occured to me today that if my mother, instead of saying 'all men are cheating shits', had said 'don't ever stay with a man who cheats' maybe I would have left the first time he cheated instead of the 15th.
I think I need to be very careful what message I plant in my DDs heads about men, cheating and relationships.
Do I tell them that mummy left daddy because he didnt keep his promise to love only her but loved other women too or do I just fob them off with 'mummy and daddy dont get on anymore'?
I think this is very important, could have massive implications for my daughters' future happiness and I don't want to get it wrong.