2 under 2 - mad idea or not that bad

[mrsflux]

Ok ds is 9mo and after a rough start to motherhood I've recently started feeling broody. Ds is a very easy going boy and we generally manage pretty well as a family. So my question is, is 2 under 2 madness like everyone says or is it an urban myth that it is horrendous?

Oh and yes I'm well aware ttc takes a while normally!

I had 3 under 15 months, I'd say wait.

They'll be fine but you'll feel crap as it will be a whole different set up to the 1st basically the baby does tend to get a tad overlooked whilst you race round after a toddler or toddlers in my case.

Also you're in the honeymoon period your ds isn't walking yet I presume-the fun really starts then!!!!!!!

3 under 15 months?! wow- respect

i had a 22 month gap between mine - the first few months were very hard even with lots of help...

but then we found our feet and got into a routine and it's been ok since

they are 3 and 5 now and best buddies - i wanted a small gap as there's 5 years between my sis and me and that's too much. i wanted my kids to grow up and experience everything together and so far so good.

i had 11mth gap, hard for first 6months, but considerably easier since. they are now 5 and 6 it im pleased it was such a close gap.

3 under 15 months! You must have had twins?

Yes they were IVF, dd a bonus natural miracle .

I fell in the honeymoon trap when the boys were 6 months old finally thinking babies are actually sooooo easy once in a routine-then they started walking!!!!!!

So glad it happened though

The playing together bit is good but the lack of individual time they get not so.

If I could have picked the ideal gap (which I couldn't) I'd have gone for 3 year gaps so the baby gets attention when the oldest is at pre-school, also it won't miss out on swimming,baby massage etc. I found bfeeding very hard with toddlers too.

I don't think the babies suffer but I've yet to meet a mum who doesn't beat herself up about the youngest missing out when there is a small gap. You want the same for the 2nd that you had for the 1st.

Wow! Thanks fir sharing all your experiences! Ds is just about ready to stand in aided- in the last couple of days he's balancing for longer and longer so I reckon he'll be walking in 9 months for sure! That might make it easier or harder- carrying or chasing, which is hardest? Prob carrying for me as ds is huge!
I guess you just get on with it as you can haardly send them back till you are ready!

When dd started to walk at 1yo it made life so much easier.

I was suffering from morning sickness and I could just lie on the sofa while she wandered around getting what toys she wanted. Just make your front room completly child proof and you will be fine

22 months between mine.

Hard yes - but worth it. Started to get alot easier for me when DD2 was about 16 months (when she started walking).

Sometimes I look back and think what the fuck were we thinking, but seeing them chase eachother and giggle now (3.5 and 19 months) I'm so glad I went for it.

The hardest part for me was definately being heavily pregnant with a 1 yr old who didn't sleep in the day to look after as well - never done anything so hard in all my life. You don't get any chance to rest.

I had 16 moths between dd1 and ds, and 17 months between ds and dd2. One of the hardest things was neither of my older two walked until they were 15 months, by which time I was 8 months pregnant. They were both really big as well.

Go for it!

And I had SPD with the last two.

I have a 21 month gap and when they were 2 under 2 it was fine as baby slept a lot. Now they're 19 months and 3.4 (ish) it's much harder in many ways - two toddlers, shudder!

There's 19 months between mine. it wasn't so bad when they were younger, despite me being a lone parent without support from when my colicy, unable to sleep through the night until she was 1.5 years DD2 was 7 weeks old.

It'a now that they are 13 and 14 and constantly at each other's throats that I am really feeling the strain of it. TBH if I had my time again I just wouldn't have done it.

I have 20 months between DS1(turns 2 next week) and DS2 (almost 4 months old). DS1 was such an easygoing baby, so when it turned out that DS2 was the complete opposite, I was stunned, and still am.

He has not napped for longer than 30 minutes during the day, except when in the Papoozle. Nights are good - he sleeps from 6 until 11, feeds and then sleeps again until 4am, feeds and then sleeps again until 7am.

If the nights were as bad as the days, I would not have been able to cope at all.

Suppose things would be different with another easygoing baby.

Will not have another child for at least 4 or 5 years.