Fess up! Who does things with their DC that go against all the guidelines?

[memoo]

I have to confess to making up DD's night feeds in advance and storing them in the fridge I know I'm not surpose to but I can barely manage to locate the correct screaming DC at 3 in the morning nevermind make up a bottle of formula!

[OrmIrian]

Nope. But I only use my own guidelines. They are flexible and perfectly suited to our lives. I never break them

[Comewhinewithme]

How can it be a lighthearted thread when posters are admitting to leaving their babies alone in the house?

If someone you knew in rl was doing that you would all be wringing your hands and posting in AIBU.

[Mshalfcut]

Yep barney every time

[memoo]

"I think it's sad that women post things like 'I let my DC watch a lot of tele' as if they are doing something wrong"

Lady, the thing is I for one don't think I am doing anything wrong at all and I sure the other posters on here are the same! I actually think I'm not a half bad mum. My point is that is you listened to all the guidelines and so called childcare experts all the time then we would be made to feel like we were doing the wrong thing!

[petisa]

yup, Martha warned us of our fate

For me this thread was about those little things you do that you're not necessarily proud of as a mum but help you get through that day, and are not the end of the world. So you do feel a tad guilty, because mums always seem to be made feel guilty about something, but you know it's not a biggie.

Like yesterday dd had Burger King fries. Well of course it's not the end of the bloody world. But I hate Burger King and crappy food most of the time, it's normally against my principles to go in there, but am 8 weeks pregnant and really needed a dose of crap food yesterday

And if anyone thinks I'm sad and unfunny for tittering about it, I don't care. We just don't have a similar sense of humour.

[wannaBe]

the problem is that the little things are being lumped in with the serious ones such as leaving babies alone in the house/drugging children with medised on a regular basis.

And in reality, who is judging if you give your child mcDonalds occasionally? Most of the judgement over that is in most peoples' heads IMO, unless you're doing it every night. Whereas judgement for leaving a sleeping baby alone in a house is not something that anyone should be proud of and which should be firmly judged by all.

[Comewhinewithme]

Nobody cares if you have junkfood my dc have a takeaway every Friday.

But leaving a baby home alone even if it is just for 5 minutes is not against guidelines it is against the law.

[CarrieDaBabi]

i can't see anything wrong with a bit tv.

[Chuffinnora]

The advice for weaning when I had DD was at 16 weeks - I managed to wait until she was 14 weeks before I cracked.
With DS the advice changed to 6 months. Full of shame about my previous failure I resolved to stick to the advice. He started to crawl at about 5 months. Obviously hungry he dragged himself to the kitchen and helped himself to a bowl of cat food. Failed again.
Too many sweets, threats and tv are a given.
Too few baths, veg and routine ditto.

[Mshalfcut]

Depends what you define as terrible tho ..one persons idea of terrible is another persons idea as normal ....... but thats MN for you

[OrmIrian]

Well that's the point royalty isn't it. By most people's standards it is terrible to leave a baby asleep whilst you pop round the corner for a pint in your local, by fewer people's standards it's terrible to leave them while you go out and water the plants in the garden. I don't think you can generalise. There are very few 'standards' that are set in stone. All you can say about most of these things is that 'I wouldn't do it'.

[Mshalfcut]

Surely you lot must know that watching too much TV gives you square eyes tho

[petisa]

god I thought she meant medised was a godsend for when her kids were ill, not to keep them quiet. tbh i don't even know what medised is, i live in spain and my dd is rarely ill, in fact i ave to rub her up against some ill kids soon or else she'll have no immunity against anything!

I left dd for 5 mins in her cot during her 3 hour marathon nap twice to nip to the shop twice when i really needed something. felt bad and don't think i would do it again, but a lot of mums i know do this sort of thing. one mum i know left her baby napping and went to the supermarket with her toddler for half an hour regularly, as special "just for them time". she thinks nothing of it.

[petisa]

that's more like it Lady!

[mozette]

where in FultonMckay's post did she say she "Drugging your children regularly to get some peace" Wannabe & TheRoyalty???

[SnowTulips]

The people admitting to leavinmg the babies asleep in the car have just reminded me about the incident a few weeks back.

We always leave ds2 asleep in the car when we get home as if woken he's irritable and screams blue murder and won't go back down again. We pop our heads out the door every minute or two to check and live in the middle of the countryside.

We got back late from shopping and as ds2 was conked we went inside and unpacked shopping and i started on dinner... keeping an eye on him obviously. About 20mins after we got in the doorbell rang just as i was heading out to check and our neighbour who's a friend of dp's was there. He asked for dp but was being a bit odd and as i invited him in he gave me a peculiar look and said 'You know the baby is in the car?'

'Yes, i know' i say cheerfully thinking he saw ds2 as he walked past the car... only to realise as i finish the sentance that ds2 is wailing in the car

Worst thing is his girlfriend is pregnant with their first and i can vividly remember all the ideals myself and dp had before the reality of kids set in and i can only imagine what a neglectful cow he thinks i am

[CarrieDaBabi]

lol ST

[memoo]

Don't worry ST, he'll find out soon enough how we'll do almost anything to get them to sleep for more than 5 minutes!

[Caz10]

chuffinora - "I managed to wait until she was 14 weeks before I cracked" - what do you mean you cracked? What cracked you? Genuinely puzzled by the early weaning stuff, as I was so reluctant to start it! DD was 6mths, if we have another DC he/she will probably be 7-8 as life just starts getting more complicated and messy when food comes along!

But back to the point of the thread - I am just glad to see that everyone elses DCs watch too much telly!

[TinaSparkles]

I ended up giving my DD "a treat" evertime I picked her up from nursery at 5 o'clock, for a whole year. She'd eat them in the car on the way home even though I said she could have them after dinner.

Started off as being the little Haribo sweetie packets from her 3rd birthday party then when they ran out Jelly Tots and stuff like that. A few times I'd being her a second hand book as a treat but these were never greeted with the same enthusiasm. Plus they were a lot harder to find.

I think I felt guilty about leaving her there all day. If I forgot (deliberately or otherwise) she would get really upset and I'd have to make sure I remembered the next day.

[GaribaldiGirl]

sexbom - is 'cc' shorthand for crack cocaine? and have just allowed my eldest 2 tea today after reading your confession. i was brought up on the stuff so have decided to follow your lead. they were so excited it was like xmas all over again.