DP wants to go back to a family event in his country on short notice (within 2 hrs flight)
and though I am going to try and get the time off work this is by no means certain and I am not in the sort of job where its reasonable to take unplanned leave
He wants to take DS who will be 15 months at the time. I have absolutely no worries about his ability to look after and care for DS, DP has always been a totally hands on father and looks after him probably more than 50% of the time at present. He will also have support of my PIL, and other extended family - again, I get on very well with them all and trust them with DS: i have no worries about any inlaw issues. I also have a very important exam coming up shortly after the weekend in question and if I am unable to travel a weekend of baby free studying would be very beneficial
But I am totally torn over it: If I can travel all is well - if not then should I let DP take DS away for the 3 nights?. DS is BF and we have never been apart overnight, and hes quite dependant on me to settle, he will tolerate long periods apart from me in the day but gets very very clingy when I get back to him. I dont like the thought of him being miles away and unsettled when hes so small and unable to rationalise why I am not there. I would have to pump to maintain supply in his absence though he would accept soy as a substitute while away
I know many people who happily let their child stay overnight or longer with relatives at this and younger ages, but I still feel odd about it.
Am I just being PFB?