Why is my DH so f***** stupid?

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

I spend my life keeping the kids safe and instilling into them right and wrong for him to:

a. throw a snowball right in DS's face reducing him to tears

b. getting them to step onto the frozen duckpond and telling them to scarper when they hear the ice crack

I really, truly could kill him right now.

what a tit

I would be furious about the ice, but getting a snowball in the face is hardly the worst thing in the world, is it? I'm sure he didn't meant to make his son cry.

It's good for kids to have at least one parent who isn't always thinking about their safety.

My DH lets our DD do things that I wouldn't have thought were safe. His faith in her ability to manage things gives her confidence to try things that she then does well at and enjoys. I think it really helps her development to be allowed try things that her more anxious mother would discourage.

It's not up to you to tell your DH how to parent his children. There are some things that are non-negotiable obviously (like encouraging them to walk on frozen ponds ) but I think you have to let the other stuff go and embrace your different parenting styles.

The snowball is bad if it was pressed hard enough to make it a ball of ice (clue broken nose, etc. etc.).

The ice... leave him to sleep in the shed.

Honestly I'm not an anxious parent. I don't mind snowball fights but he just doesn't think. I'm probably more free and easy with the kids than most but some of the stupid things he does when they end up in tears ....yeah let's swing the kids by the legs for a great laugh (which it is) but then I forget that they are small and I let them go and they land on their heads - tears.

Handing them over to me onto a boat and then being distracted by something far more interesting like boat engines and just letting them go where they would have fallen into the sea had I not grabbed them.

It's the non-negotiable things that really irk me. Everyone else in the world can see that they are dangerous except him.

I don't know why he is so stupid but he clearly is.