I was wondering if anyone experiences divisiveness due to the OLOP experience or bringing up children in their own languages.
My DH has become unbearably competitive and does everything possible to prevent me from spending time or speaking to the kids more than he does as he views it as me trying to dominate with my language. I get "punished" whenever I spend more time with the kids like if I get home early from work(half hour than he does) then it makes it his right to have quality time with them. It's gotten to a point where only he can take them to school in the morning because again I spend way too much time with them (I work full-time by the way and pay most of the expenses). He is always tallying up. And throwing it back at me. Like they dont speak his language. They speak it better than other kids in the same situation. He is obsessed with his language and won't let up. I also can't share advances that they make in my language or funny things they say because I know he will use it to say "see I need to push my language" or if my little ones (which they dont anymore) used to sing a song or happy birthday in my language he would get extremely angry and say something like from now on I want to spend more time doing things in my language. I have become quiet and "hide" my language when we are a family. It makes me so sad that he doesnt see that it doesn't really matter at the end of the day. They can speak both very well and obviously English (oh and on homework that is my duty since it is in English as he wont waste his time on doing something not in his language)but he will help with math as he can do that in his language. This is the kind of situation I am in. Anyone have similar experiences or is this just plain crazy?