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Mummy or Mum?

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quinne · 15/12/2009 22:36

DS1 (age 7) has just started a new school and he thinks that he is under pressure to start calling me "Mum" instead of mummy. DS2 (age 5) is ok to call me Mummy though.
What's the norm at your DC's school?
Personally i think they should call me whichever name they choose, but then I'm not 7 and trying to fit in...

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Tortington · 17/12/2009 22:35

dd age 16 calls me mummy

BigusBumus · 18/12/2009 09:20

ItsGrim, My mum chose to be called Granny, its not my children's choice, the same as it's my chice what my children call me. If they were unhappy about it I am sure they would tell me, but they're not. Actually they call me a mix of Mummy and Anna. "Dictatorship" lol!

RockBird · 18/12/2009 09:25

A bit young for your straw poll but my toddler dd calls me mama which I love. Assume she'll grow out of it but my 7yo niece calls her mum mama so there's hope.

I still call my mother mummy and I'm 38.

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Hulababy · 18/12/2009 09:37

7y DD (Y3) calls me mummy and DH daddy. The majority of her friends, including the older ones, still say mummy and daddy.

Aubergines · 18/12/2009 09:45

I have a 40 year old friend who still calls his mother "mummy" both to her face and when talking about her. I think it sounds odd and makes him come across as tied to the apron strings.

It is an upper class thing for adults to call mothers mummy. It reminds me of the stereotypical chinless hooray henry with the over domineering mother fixation.

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 18/12/2009 09:46

My 2.4 yr old calls me mum, he's never attempted mummy yet. I'd prefer mummy but I'm just so pleased he's calling me anything (he's a bit speech delayed)

RockBird · 18/12/2009 10:12

Aubergines, what a load of bollocks. I'm two years short of your friend, call my mother mummy, am not upper class, not a 'chinless hooray henry' (though why you're allowed to say that but not chav is beyond me ). He obviously doesn't have issues with it but it sounds like you have. Wonder why...

LeninGrotto · 18/12/2009 10:33

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TheShowMustGoOn · 18/12/2009 10:39

My DC call me by name (not something I ever encouraged)

Occasionally I'm mama , if they are tired / whiney it's a long drawn out mummy

giveitago · 18/12/2009 10:58

My dh calls him mum mama - that's the one word they have for mummy in his language - it does sound strange hearing little kids say mama and then grown men addressing their mum as mama - but it's the one word.

I will always call my mummy, mummy, even though she's 70 - that's her name and that's what I call her in front of everyone.We're not posh, she's not English but we like mummy. It's very loving.

Doubt my ds will call me mummy for much longer though.

potplant · 18/12/2009 11:06

I'm mummy most of the time, sometimes mum, and mama when they are ill. Now and again one of my DTs calls me by my first name which I'm not keen on.

Aubergines · 18/12/2009 11:31

Itsnot a load of bollocjs RockBird. It is my opinion and I framed it as such. If someone says they don't like something, or it has certain connotations for them, you can't say "that's a load of bollocks" although you can of course explain why you feel differently.

The only thing I stated as fact is that it tends to be the upper classes who use "mummy" into adulthood and that is true.

babyicebean · 18/12/2009 11:34

The eldest calls me Mum/Muuuuuuuuuuuummmmmmmmmm (the whined version or mummy when she is poorly or wanting something

The middle one has taken to calling me either mum or mamon due to her having a french friend in reception

youngest just yell at me

RockBird · 18/12/2009 11:38

As I have just contradicted what you said, how can that be a fact? Therefore it is only your opinion and my opinion is that it is bollocks. Am also astounded that you know every member of the English speaking world to base this 'fact' on.

You didn't say it had connotations, apart from some vaguely insulting class based nonsense. You said it was fact and that is incorrect.

I've noticed that people who say mum tend to be common, working class layabouts. That's a fact.

Shodan · 18/12/2009 12:02

Ds1 calls me Mum.

Ds2 calls me mama (long may it reign, I love it)

I call my mother mum and my father dad, except for one occasion when I had a nasty boyfriend refusing to leave my house. I rang dad and called him daddy on the phone. He knew instantly something was very wrong and sorted it all out for me.

So daddy is a codeword!!

OhYouMerryMerryKitten · 18/12/2009 12:04

dd calls me Mummy. I've told her a few times that she can call me Mum if she likes, she is 10!

harecare · 18/12/2009 14:03

I'm from working class background and am now middle class. I have always called my Mum Mummy. Each of my brothers and sisters do and so does a friend who my Mum fostered for a while. It sounds very odd coming from this friends mouth, but to her that is my Mum's name, just as my Dad is Daddy.
So, sorry Aubergine, your fact doesn't work with me either.

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