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Am just a bit fed up - someone please tell me that's okay.

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ErikaMaye · 15/12/2009 21:25

My DS is five weeks tomorrow. I adore him, he's by far the best thing to have ever happened to me, he makes me giggle so often already; he's a total joy. But I'm just so exahusted. Combating ME with a new born, and doing it myself, whilst trying to function with my parents... Its wiping me out physically and emotionally.

I miss DP. I got so used to him being here for the first month, doing the changes to give me that few more minutes to wake up during a feed, keeping me company during the nights so I didn't feel so lonely, making me cups of tea when I was stressed...

I miss being able to go out without having to plan it for hours in advance. I miss not having to try to manouver a buggy on and off the bus when I do get out. I miss my boobs not leaking everywhere!

Someone please - please? - tell me this doesn't make me a terrible person or mother, because right now that's how I feel.

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tinierclanger · 15/12/2009 21:28

It's ok! I doubt you could find any mother that didn't feel that way at the beginning.

You've made a massive change to your life that it takes time to adjust to, plus you're knackered and overwhelmed by responsibility. What you are feeling is so normal, and of course it doesn't make you a terrible person or mother.

It does get easier. Promise!

waitingforbedtime · 15/12/2009 21:29

Nooooooooo it doesnt make you a terrible person or mother. I felt like this (still do some days and ds is 3!) but once youve had a wee while of being on your own with the wee one you'll gte into the swing of things, have your own routine and probably find that dh 'gets in the way' a bit when he is there (in the nicest possible way!).

Dont try to be superwoman, just focus on baby and you.

Openbook · 15/12/2009 21:52

So you do all those things and other age appropriate activities for about 18 years and then they up and leave you - woah - that bit really hurts!

It's a roller coaster (quoting Boyzone , you can tell I've had a couple) but just do your best, that's all any of us do - however old our babies.

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ErikaMaye · 16/12/2009 09:30

Thank you. Am glad to hear its not just me. He's ill at the moment, guess that's adding to my frustrations - I can't make it all better or explain to him why he feels so terrible. Plus the sore throat means he wants feeding every hour or so.

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pispirispisloveschristmas · 16/12/2009 14:46

No, don't worry, it's soooo normal to feel that way. And the first week alone with your baby when your dp goes back to work is really hard. Having a newborn is hard work, and it will get easier in a few weeks time.

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