How much domestic stuff does your other half do/did with new baby?

[missslc]

I am currently off during day on mat leave- a few days to go so i am doing most of domestic chores and hubby has meal ready when he gets home at 7.30- 8 pm each evening. I end up washing up the next morning as i just feel too tired at 9 pm to do it once i have sat my huge bloated body down on that couch.

Just adjusting to this new labour division- in the past hubby made some attempt under direction to do the washing up the next morning when we both worked full time.

Now i accept he is out working all day and i am at home and am managing to relax lots during the day.BUT

I just have this feling that it will be quite full on with a new baby and that i made need some sort of input from him.

Do others on here get much help from partner with any chores when you have/had a new baby?

I cannot believe that i can feel such irritation and resentment over something so petty but it would be really nice for him to just wash up now and again as a token gesture or at least move his plate off the table to the sink!

if i ask him to do anything he makes a joke about him being my 'gofer' which just makes me want to punch him. I am pregnant and it is a physical strain towards the end and i just think he should be offering to get the occasional drink or(last night it was the duvet as the room was so cold)rather than being clever with me when i ask for something after i have presented him with a meal, washed up, laundered and
ironed his clothes. I think his view is that he has been at work all day and he should not have to do any work at home now that i am there all day- and i do understand this but when baby comes what is it reasonable to expect someone who has been out of the house for nearly 12 hours to do? I just think that a newborn will mean that i will be pretty much working during the day too!!

How much do your other halfs do??

to OP

DH always did a lot a home when it was just the two of us, I would say equal share

when dd came along he did far more, there were some days in those firsts 6 weeks when he would come home from work and cook the evening meal

that happen sometimes over the next few months
he has always taken care of his own laundry anyway

after that we have been more balanced

I have no idea how I would have coped without him tbh

and obviously a lot of baby care except for BF although would give bottle of expressed milk
they still have their days alone almost every week, and have done so since dd was about 4 months old, she is now 4

Once things have settled down after having a new baby my My dh does:
*Half the chores Saturday and Sunday but that is a basic clean and tidy no extra's.
*He puts the bin out.
*Will cook if I am feeling unwell.
*Will look after the two kids ds3yo and dd 4mths while I cook or clean on weeknights which I actually prefer as he gets to spends some quality time with the kids and dp is a very hands on dad he was crying his eyes out both times he had to go back off paternity leave bless him.I get to make dinner in half the time without having to stop to clean up bums e.t.c.

• Dp and ds 3yo see to the fish and feed the dog when at home if not I do it.

Before things had settled down and I had recovered from birth he did virtually everything even down to passing me a drink while I fed so until I have well and truly established feeding he did everything in order to let me concentrate on not getting sore boobies.

Good luck with the new baby.