Mummies with 4 children- advice please

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How hard is it to have a fourth child if you can manage three? I would love to have another but am really worried by the practicalities as I don't really have much help. I feel it might be taking on too much but on the other hand would hate to look back and regret not having another. Has anyone got useful advice?

I found it a doddle tbh she spent the first 18 months just watching the others!

Worst bit was actually strapping them all in the car seats.

Thx cargirl. Can anyone else help?

my DC4 is 11 weeks old and i think it's easy too, my other DC are 9 , 7 , and 2 the only problem i have had is temper tantrums from my 2 year old ince dd2 was born ..........i want another one but not yet

I don't recommend it, esp. if U don't have family help. Depends a lot on Ur DH, tho' -- mine really isn't suited 2 a large family. I have a cleaner once/week & very occasional Mother's help (friend's 11yo dd).
I have 4 DC age nearly 2yo to just turned 10yo.

Thx. We don't have family help brokenarm and DH works++ so not much help there either

go for it

I have 4 and the youngest is 20 months, she is amused all day by the other kids and is so content due to the attention she gets, she is also very able and picks up things from the rest. I am planning number 5, do agree though, I walk now more than ever because its easier than strapping them all into car

yep i have four and am planning no 5 nest year.

i wont say its been a breeze, unluckily i got post natal psychosis after no 4 having never even had the baby blues with the first three this was a huge shock and i had over a week on hospital when ds4 was 4mths old because of it. but despite that trauma it has worked out really well, ds4 loves his big brothers and they dote on him, my others are 4yrs, 7 yrs and 10yrs, all boys hence the name

its not always easy, esp as my partner works long hours and we have no family nearby, but it is managable and i love it.

you need a big car obviously tho

Interesting thread as I am pregnant with number 4 and have no family help either, have a very good DP though who when he is here everything is 50/50.

I am planning on getting a cleaner sometime next year as have SPD as well and things are slipping a bit.

We have five, all older now, but when they were small DH worked away. Very little family help. In-laws, never. My parents would sit with them if I went to an appointment, but made it quite clear I needed to return home as soon as possible! The hardest part was going from 1 to 2. When I worked out there was not suddenly 48 hours in a day things settled down. Nos 3,4 and 5 were the easiest. They were far more relaxed and laid back as babies and toddlers and that has carried on to older kids now.

Go for it, I feel you never regret having another, but I have heard many people say they wish they had more.

i have 4DC, ages 7, 5, 3, and 8mos. My personal experience was having no. 4 gave me pnd because the jump from 3 to 4 was just too much for me to handle. after being treated i now manage fine most days and she is loved by the whole family and we can not imagine not having her! i think we all find our ways to cope and it is obviously possible. i didn't have any help from anyone, my DH works long hours. i still find all the little practicalities hard tho, like homework, meals, playdate coordinating etc..

Thank you to everyone who has replied.
sweetkitty-SPD is something that puts me off wanting to be pregnant again, as had nasty SPD with no.3.
Sorry to hear that a couple of you had pnd following baby 4. That must have been v hard.