SAHM - is it too much to expect meaningful interactions?

[verityeillim]

I don't think anyone really listens to me - I feel I have one friend who lives quite a long way away and I get to see her maybe 3 times a year and we talk on skype/phone every couple of weeks. I feel she is interested in me but no one else really. I go to coffee mornings/playgroups and I regularly meet up with a couple of other SAHMs but no one is really interested in anyone else - too wrapped up in their issues with kids etc - me included. Husband doesn't listen to me but how many women have said that? You get a new outfit or new hairstyle and they don't notice.

I feel my life has been reduced to boring routine of looking after 2 small children and no one gives a t&ss how I feel. I don't have any family of my own so no mom to look after me, MIL is not warm and just feel I am on my own.

I somehow want to want company/conversation less - to be more self contained so that I am more self reliant.

Anyone with any tips/ideas? Just feeling sorry for myself really.

i can be fairly isolating having a small child. do you do anything in the evenings? or is there a pool nearby with a creche. sometime just having half an hour to yourself swimming etc is enough to reset your sense of persepective.

i found joining a book group when dd was little was great. you are forced to read and then you go and meet adults and talk about grown up stuff.

take care

I've found you have to seek things out in an almost aggressive manner.

What other interests do you have? Book groups are a fab idea goaty. What about a course? Or maybe going to/ back to Uni?

It's scary putting yourself out there, and the risk of further rejection is a big one to take. Worth it though.

What are you interested in? I dont mean that in a 'join a night class' type of way, but i certainly felt the way you did until i found some like-minded people at a Le Leche League group.

Playgroups are fine, but they dont attract a certain kind of people - everyone goes! So what you need to do is decide what kind of people you want to meet, then find a group that they woudl be attracted to. IYSWIM!!

I totally understand where you are coming from, and it isnt too much to ask. There will be people like you living near you that want to meet you! HAve you ever been to a MN meet up? I've met a lot of lovely people that way.

Ive been there- what might help is a part time job in a public venue such as a supermarket something mundane but where u meet people,or a hobby -something youve not done before or maybe a diet or excecise class something for you!! or a course maybe doing acrylic nails or something beautified and that can make you a bit of money as well.