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Does anyone else just love having two boys?

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Gateau · 24/11/2009 22:03

I had DS2 four weeks ago. I didn't find out whether I was having a boy or girl but was pretty sure I was having another boy. I'm just so happy to have them both and DS1 (2.7) has been such a star with his little brother.
I know I'll probably get the 'are you going to try again for a little girl?' comments but I really don't think we will go for a third. I feel very blessed and don't have that yearning for a girl that lots of women have. Let's say I feel 'complete'.
I'm not taking away from anyone who has girls but I'm just so happy with my two little fellas. They're just so damn cute and I can't wait for a future filled with mess, madness and fun!!
Anyone else feel the same? Just thought I'd share my happiness!!

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spongebrainbigpants · 25/11/2009 14:49

I have two boys - 6 weeks and 17 months - never had any yearning for a daughter at all. Would love another baby but after a complicated 2nd pg that is not going to happen, but would be more than happy with another boy.

When I was 8 mths pg was in the park talking to a mum of a girl there (didn't know her) and she asked me what I was having - I said another boy, and she replied "never mind" . I could have punched her!

Why do all women presume that women are desperate for girls? I was just desperate for kids and now I have two I feel like the luckiest woman alive - I don't miss not having a daughter and don't envy mums of girls nowadays as there is so much pressure on them to look a certain way (i.e. size ten and gorgeous), I am relieved I will not have to contend with that as no daughter I had would have been a size ten .

acebaby · 25/11/2009 14:49

lovely thread - particularly the posts about older boys getting on well.

I am besotted with my two boys (4yo and 18mo). They are both constantly on the go, wee everywhere (DS2 manages to extract his willy from his nappy!), wrestle constantly, obsessed with mechanical things. And I wouldn't have them any other way

The only problem was thinking of a name for DS2, as we had used our favourite (and only agreed) boy's name for DS1. Oh, and the trying for a girl comments are pretty irritating as well!

alypaly · 25/11/2009 15:01

Aww thanks acebaby wish i could have loads more children...i love babies

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agingoth · 25/11/2009 15:35

Alypaly, I don't think you need to worry about that 'special closeness' thing being lost because you don't have a daughter, I really think things have changed now and boys don't feel channelled into football/golf/fishing with dads, they're not ashamed to be seen shopping and my ds1 already advises me on clothing and makeup!!!

I really think the relationship is what you make it, they are individual little people. The thread talks a lot about fighting/wrestling with boys, mine do do it but one would do it wherever he was, the other one if alone is much more likely to start doing jigsaws etc.

notwavingjustironing · 25/11/2009 15:41

Two boys is fab. I honestly couldn't have put up with loads of fluffy girly pink crap round the house, I much prefer building things with lego and kicking a football with them.

agingoth · 25/11/2009 15:43

yep notwaving, I feel 'conditioned' against girly stuff, ds1 and I shudder when Bratz ads etc come on the telly- but then again, they are both obsessed with this ghastly programme Winx Club which seems to feature a bunch of cartoon Barbies?! who can fathom them...

notwavingjustironing · 25/11/2009 15:47

I have banned Bratz. And Spongebob

Never heard of Winx Club

jellybeans · 25/11/2009 17:23

. "I really hope you have a girl as they are so much nicer than boys" '

Can't believe someone said that to you? Was it a mum of only girls? I only had girls first and didn't really see how great boys were until I had my own, had no brothers etc. I think some people genuinely have no idea what they are 'missing' and only see the 'bad' bits. Since I now have DSs and DDs I can safely say that none are better, all are fantastic.

I often wonder how much of 'gender differences' (other than physical obviously) is shaped by society ie dif colour clothes/toys etc, why isn't it just 'kids' clothes and toys without the 'seperate' colour schemes.

As for the MIL thing we will just have to be nice!! I know many girls (inc my sister) who don't want kids these days anyway and are very independant, you may hardly see a DD as much as a DS.

inthesticks · 25/11/2009 17:59

I adore having two boys. They are now 11 and 13.
When I was pregnant with DS2 I did find out the sex because I secretly wanted another boy and if he was a girl I wanted time to get used to the idea rather than risk being disappointed at the birth.
Of course I know I would have loved a girl but at the time I didn't see that.
Would have liked more too but had to stop at two.

alypaly · 25/11/2009 18:49

yes i found out the sex of DS2 before he was born,but kept it too myself. Tried not to belive it as sometimes they get it wrong.

Would have loved to have bought some girly things,rather than guns,garages,dowdy grungy clothes as they got older,but we are so amazingly close and as i am a single mum,they are very protective of me now, which is lovely. DS1 is 6'1" and DS2 is 6'4" so i feel quite protected...if not dwarfed even though i am 5'8"

5inthebed · 25/11/2009 18:54

I have three boys, 6, 4 and 1. I love them! They are so cuddly and affectionate. They all get on great as well. I hate people asking me if I'm going to try for a girl. Don't I have enough with three kids already? I'd like a daughter, but only so I could dress her and do her hair, other than that, I'm quite satisfied with the three I've already got.

Alypaly, I'm 5'5 and my boys are going to be really tall when they are older, their dad is 6'4''

alypaly · 25/11/2009 19:00

wouldnt swap mine for anything now as i couldnt be more proud of them. They have never gone off the rails even at 21 and 17 and have been good guys without being goody goodies. They have always worked so hard at school and uni and deserve every success they get. DS1 wants to be a pharmacist and DS2 a vet so they have followed my trrend in medicine,which is great!!!

love them to bits and i miss DS1 as he is away at uni,but i guess you have to let go sometime.

2greatboys · 25/11/2009 19:10

What a lovely thread. My DSs are 8 and 6 and currently expecting DC#3. We've started telling people our exciting news and am at the amount of people who say you must be wanting a girl this time. No a lovely healthy baby is what we want. Also that several people have already asked if it was planned!

alypaly · 25/11/2009 19:15

i wanted 6 or more...i find babies edible

piscesmoon · 25/11/2009 19:38

Three boys are even better!

zonedout · 25/11/2009 21:34

another one here who is absolutely besotted with her 2 boys. ds1 (3.8) and ds2 (13 months) are my world. they are the sweetest, softest, funniest, cheekiest, messiest, noisiest, most adorable little people. ds2 already tries to rugby tackle ds1, jumps all over him all the while giggling his little heart out. and my heart melts to watch my much bigger ds1 react so gently and lovingly to his baby brother, i so love that wonderful juxtaposition of strength/physicality and softness in little boys. was so glad for ds1 that ds2 was a boy, think a same sex sibling is a great gift...well, any sibling is a gift but somehow it seems to me there is more scope for closer friendship when siblings are the same sex (and likewise siblling rivalry i suspect )

lovechoc · 25/05/2010 15:25

I'm due my second child in a few month's time and it's another boy which we are delighted about tbh. No worries over having to buy seperate toys (we have them all from DS1), DS2 can wear all the same clothing that DS1 wore etc. It's just easier having two of the same gender. A few friends were disappointed when they had been all excited about buying dresses (thinking I may have a girl) but a healthy baby is all that we wanted.

Morloth · 25/05/2010 15:38

Yup, DS2 is 8 weeks.

Is fantastic, I enjoy DS1's "boyness" a great deal and already DS2 is loud and funny like his brother and watching them together is awesome, I look forward to all the mischief.

They also both think I am the best thing in the world (well DS2 is mostly interested in my breasts) and I rather like being the only girl in the family.

Morloth · 25/05/2010 15:41

I think I have also been conditioned against the girly stuff, I look a the girl clothes with friends and just think "blah" - why must it all be pink? I don't get people who say there are more clothes for girls - well yes there are more but they are all the bloody same!

I felt actual relief when I had the 20 week scan and DS2 was a boy, I would have gotten used to the idea of a girl probably but I am glad I didn't need to.

lovechoc · 25/05/2010 15:59

congrats morloth!

yes, I feel similar to you about having two boys.

Part of me wonders what it would be like to have a girl but at the same time DH and I have decided to stop at having two children for many reasons so have now got my head around the fact that in 7 weeks time I'll have two boys to raise and will enjoy every minute of it. Easier having two the same gender - they can share a bedroom if they want for as long as they want!

sparkleshine · 25/05/2010 16:15

I love my DS who is 5 mths.
I have never had an yearning for a girl like a lot of women want. Im not really a girly girl

When i was pregnant, we both werent bothered whether boy or girl and tbh im happy that my DP has now got his little man and someone who he can take to football and pass his joinery skills onto etc
(Also my DP was the last male in his family, so my DS can now carry the name on)

If i get pregnant again one day, yes it would be lovely to have a girl and have one of each, but now that we have our boy, if i were honest, i would be even more happier if it was a boy and feel just as complete

pranma · 25/05/2010 17:13

My dd has 2 boys with a similar age-gap[2.5] and she[and we]think it is wonderful.They are so loving,funny and cute and devoted to each other.

Rosie29 · 25/05/2010 19:25

I have a 15 month old ds after 2 dd's. He's a breath of fresh air, so sweet, funny and just gorgeous. I hate pink and take great pleasure in dressing ds in his cousin's brightly coloured hand-me-down shorts and t-shirts, I could eat him he's so delicious!!

angel1976 · 25/05/2010 22:50

I have two boys and I'm in your club! Had DS1 and hoped for DS2. They are both so very different but absolutely beautiful. DS2 already adores his older brother at 7 months old. DS1 thinks DS2 is his toy.

We are so done, I feel truly blessed to have my boys. Who was it that said 'you have the children you are meant to have' and I feel that is so true.

2boytantrum · 28/05/2010 13:44

I just want to say thank you for starting this thread! I'm one of those sad mums who desperately wanted/want a little girl, but I have 2 dss who are absolutely wonderful and it's so good to read all these positive things about having 2 boys!

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