How can i get off life's dull merry go round?

[GCharlton]

Since i went back to work after having my 2 children (2 yrs ago) i have struggled. I need to work as my hubbie is a nurse, so my added salary is a must.

Every moment during the week i feel so guilty that i only see my kids for 15 mins before bed and then at the weekend i spend it catching up on the ironing, cleaning, food shopping and present hunting for my children's half a dozen parties a week, then running them from a to b for football, dancing etc.

How can i get off this miserable merry go round? They must feel like they don't have a mother!

I had this feeling for a quite some time when i went back to work,i don't see my children at all in the week, it's awful isn't it? but i had to evaluate what was important, so for the weekend i made some changes....

I got a cleaner/ironing lady who helped me a couple of hours a week (it's a luxury but have to admit made a big difference) and I have my food shopping delivered. When it comes to my kid's friend's bday parties i tend to hover around the door in an effort to meet their friends who i didn't know, that has made a world of difference, as now i know who they're talking about!

And when it comes to your kid's friend's birthday presents a website called The Present Club is very popular at my children's school as mums can contribute however much they would like to a child's present in their wish list and saves you having to go shopping!

Hope all this helps....x

do you get a lunch hour?
I would spend that time buying presents if i were you
cleaner is a great idea
why do they have 6 parties a week?
I would say no to a few invites tbh
my sister took her 5 yr old to 3 parties on one day once, 2 were at the same place, madness imo, i would have said no to 2 of them!

hmm you have to pay to advertise

My Kids go to big schools and everyone seems to invite the whole class plus my friend's children's parties too, when you have 3 kids i can easily have 4-6 invites in a week and i feel mean saying no to my kids, then i would feel even more guilty!