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Nursery say DS is 'stubborn'. Aren't all toddlers?!

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TheLemur · 24/11/2009 14:42

On 2 separate occasions last week, I was told that DS (2.3) was being stubborn, and it was said in a kind of a way rather than a sympathetic kind of way (if you get what I mean)

My nursery and all the staff there are excellent and really good at working with parents etc. So I was a bit taken aback as it was almost like they expected me to do something about it or defend it. But, erm, he's a toddler - they are stubborn aren't they? He's always been quite independent and is one of the oldest in his room. He's usually very happy and compliant so long as he's not hungry or tired (again usual toddler stuff). I think this might have happened when they were trying to get him in from the garden to have tea, and knowing DS, he was so stuffed on extra portions of lunch, he really didn't want any tea so understandably wanted to keep on playing.

I'm not quite sure if maybe 'stubborn' is nursery-speak for something else? But there's really nothing I can do or say in response to a toddler being stubborn is there?!

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violetqueen · 24/11/2009 19:46

If I were you I'd ask them for more info - what was he being stubborn about ?
what had happened just prior to him being stubborn?
what action did they take /how did they try to resolve situation ?
how can you work together as a team to stop this being a problem ?

violetqueen · 24/11/2009 19:46

If I were you I'd ask them for more info - what was he being stubborn about ?
what had happened just prior to him being stubborn?
what action did they take /how did they try to resolve situation ?
how can you work together as a team to stop this being a problem ?

CarGirl · 24/11/2009 19:49

yes toddlers are stubborn but some are especially so and some of them need extra firm boundaries so they learn that they really do have to comply to adults in authority IYSWIM.

I would be asking what do they mean etc as a couple of one off incidents don't mean anything I should think.

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