I have just thrown a plastic cups across the room

[Saltire]

in the direction of DS1 . He was moaning about wanting to go out, and I opened the door and said "no, it's raining, you were out in the rain earlier, your shoes are wet. You're not going out" So he picked up his crips and threw them in a temper and then started putting his shoes on, and siad "I'm going out anyway", so I told him to go to his room, he said "NO,I'm going out". I picked up the cup and threw it and screamed at him "For once do as you're told and go to your room".

I feel really shocked with myself, but I am completely losing it, I have no energy or willpower (mental or physical) to dela with the Dcs rationally.All the otehr stresses and starins are getting to me and him arguing back to me was the last straw today.

I know it was not the right thing to do but sometimes I think its good for kids to see just how stressed their parents are.

My mum did something similar when i was a kid and it really shocked and scared me but also made me realise how stressed she was and I did try and behave better.

perhaps get him to go to his room and plaay for a bit then do something nice together this afternoon.... even if it is just watching a dvd together snuggled up on the sofa.

haave you got anyone in rl who can give you some extra support.... you sound very frazzled.

if you can have half an hour to yourself and run a bth or something.

hope your ok.

did he go to his room?

it was only plastic, hopefully nothing got broken and he got the message!

I agree with spooky, sometimes a child needs to see they've gone to far.

You didn't hit him or hurt him, right? All you did was lose your temper. You showed him your human.

So did he go to his room?

((hugs)) sorry to hear you're having a tough time.

Buy him some wellies for future wet play?

Sorry to hear you feel you are losing it. I know that feeling only too well - had times when mine were younger when I felt like leaving the house and not coming back.

Whilst I don't disagree that showing them you are angry is a good thing, feeling that you are not in control of your anger, and throwing things IS a sign that you need to find other ways to deal with confrontation.

I am really not judging here - the worst thing I did was to deliberately trip one of mine up, in anger (worse than what you did).

Sounds like you need some time to yourself. Apologise to your son, and do something nice together. Don't beat yourself up though - no harm was done.

If it's other stuff that's getting to you, are you getting any help with that ? I went through a period of depression which left me with smaller reserves for dealing with the DCs. Counselling really helped me to vent.

Or maybe tell us on here, and we can help x

Don't beat yourself up. He needs to learn that you have limits. He was being out of order.