... a shocking night with my 3 month old daughter and my partner. She is not yet able to settle herself to sleep, which I think is pretty normal at this age, so I sit up in bed (breast)feeding her until she drifts off (often a mutually satisfying experience at least initially but occasionally frustrating as she still doesn't always find getting the milk out easy, due to severe tongue tie treated quite late on) while my partner slumbers quietly by our side. Finally she sleeps and releases the breast. I slowly manouvre myself to a standing position and gently lower her into the cot beside the bed.
About 50% of the time I don't completely screw up the transfer and she will remain lightly asleep through her inevitable startle reflex and snuffling snuggle to find comfort and I know that, barring disaster, she will settle into deeper sleep and I will be on the road to a few hours of blissful kip myself. I get back into bed with the minimum of noise possible but my partner, perhaps disturbed by a bedspring pinging or a floorboard creaking, mirrors our daughter's move from deep to light sleep and, as is his wont in light sleep, starts to thrash about and emit terrible, mega decibel, rumbling snores. Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah comes from the cot, fuck fuck fuck (sotto voce) comes from me as I lift howling daughter back out of the cot, soothe her and settle her on the boob again and listen, seething with resentment and tiredness, to her suckling as partner's snores fade gradually into silence.
We had this cycle umpteen times last night, culminating in me saying, I thought under my breath, at 5.45 am "oh my fucking lord. honey, please please please can you stop snoring", which he somehow heard and took as his cue to stomp downstairs to the sofa muttering about how he hadn't had any sleep! At this point the girl woke up properly, wreathed in smiles and seemingly ready to start the day.
Anyone have any advice?