It's flipping DS1 - he's lovely, he really is (I posted a lovely thread about him last night).
But my god he's now REALL starting to do my head in with his apathy over things such as school work or violin practice.
He's doing ok at school, he's above average - but nothing staggering (although his handwriting is fantastic - he was the first in his entire year (of 60) to get to use a pen in YR3).
His teacher says he's doing well, but could do better if he put more effort in. After a talk about his violin lessons over half term he's started putting an effort in during the lesson and in his last 2 lessons has moved on a page. BUT he hasn't practice. I can't force it, I encourage, bribe, (beg, plead etc etc ) but obviously no point in pushing it hard otherwise we both end up stroppy which gets us nowhere.
It's coming up to payment time again for the lessons and I've just told him that I really don't feel like I should continue paying for his lessons. And all he can protest is "I'm doing well I've moved onto a new page in each of my last few lessons".
I just can't seem to get into him that if he'd practiced he could maybe have moved 2/3/4/5 pages in each lesson.
The same with his school work, he thinks because he's keeping up in class and is getting majorit of things right, and is in the "top" group for all of his subjects he doesn't need to put any effort into it.
He just seems to be cruising through life and school with no drive in him at all.
Even DH, who has always been better at the 1-to-1's with him doesn't seem to be getting though,.
Oh - and when we went to the Enuresis (bed wettting clinic) last week even the NURSE said quite bluntly to him that she thinks most of the problem is the fact that he isn't really that bothered about it so doesn't want to put the effort in, and she told him that until he's going to make more effort with it there's nothing she can do (we've had the desmo and the alarm already).
He's been like it since he was tiny - he couldn't be bothered to walk (took 2 steps when he was 11 months, then cruised furniture for 7 months before he took anymore lol) and I thought that with encouragement/bribes/rewards/enticements he'd grow out of it but he's not.