Dummies + 2½ year old

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I don't like dummies. I never have and don't want to use them for my dcs.

My dd is 2½ years old. She's always liked dummies. She's once had two of her own (bought by my dh despite my protests) but I got rid of them pretty quickly.

She takes them off other kids whenever she can.

Dh is on paternity leave and has just been shopping with her. He's bought her a dummy "because she wanted one and she obviously gets great comfort from them."

I think she's too old now anyway and I'm annoyed because he's now created a situation where I'm going to have to take the dummy away if not now at some point in the future causing her more strife and tears that could have been avoided.

Why has he done this? He's such a Father Christmas dad, bestowing gifts on the dcs all the time and then I'm the bad cop, having to restore some normality when he goes off to work etc. I explained to him that I didn't think dummies are a good idea but he just goes ahead and buys her one anyway.

I sympathise completely!

Not on really is it? I'd be cross.

My son had a dummy way past the age I thought he would (Hoped for 1 year max but had it until 3 ), but they are a bugger to get rid of. I previously hated them but found it a great self soothing tool, as long as it was under my control - i.e. I give it and take it away at appropriate times, bed or long car journeys.

Last month he eventually told me he was a big boy now, and didn't want it any more.
I found the "dummy fairy" very good at facilitating the amnesty. When you think she's ready, get her to throw it away herself and the fairy brings a toy perhaps?