PFB first day at nursery - is it ok to phone?

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Dropped dd off at 8.45 for her first full day at nursery, 11.5 months. So far she's had one hour and an hour and a half settling in sessions, yesterday went v badly as they'd forgotten to make her any lunch then gave her a bowl of gloop (she's blw so feeds herself proper food), she screamed most of the time

This morning she had been in a fine mood but when she saw the nursery door started screaming, clinging to my legs etc and her key person wasn't there yet so she had a hug from one of the other girls but still doing that open mouth silent scream thing followed by a massive yell as I shut the door (sob).

Would it be ok to phone nowish to see if she's ok...? She's due to be having a nap around now and I'm really worried they won't be able to get her to calm down enough.

Of course phone them. I rang 3 times a day when DS first started nursery !

Yep, phone away.

Phone as often as you like - she's your PFB, and I'm sure the nursery are well used to it!

Yes call them, they should be used to it. I'm a bit surprised they haven't called you if drop off was a bit screamy. You won't be able to work until you have put your mind at rest.

Yes! Go and phone!

I used to work in a nursery and didn't mind one bit when parents phoned! They will understand you are nervous. I used to encourage parents to call, so that they didn't feel how you do now!

Go and call I am sure she will be fine! Lot's of children cry when being dropped off, but soon settle and have a lovely day. I also used to encourage parents to 'peek' through the window when they came to collect so that they could see their DC playing happily, because sometimes when they were new, they would start crying as soon as they saw mum/dad again.

yy ring

BUT

why are you not out shopping/having hair done/having posh coffee whilst flicking through a lovely glossy mag as way of distracting yourself?

Go on, ring, then out the door for some Me-time.

ahh forgot that you might be at work

Took so long to write x-posted!

I forced myself not to phone, thinking I'd get into a cycle of 'checking' every day that she was OK. Also, if she is a bit upset or unsettled, it'll only make you feel worse, and compelled to rush back and get her.

Of course, you may not be as mad neurotic as me.

Phew. I didn't want to seem all overprotective. And am now crying again. My little girl! Wah. Will call once lump in throat is gone.

Boys - I'm meeting up with a mate for coffee later, and have a glossy mag waiting. Not at work for another couple of weeks as I knew I'd be a sobbing wreck and that doesn't look v professional...

Definitely phone them. It is awful those first few days. I spent much of the first 3 weeks in a state and desperate to get to my little DD.

She absoloutely loves nursery and is very happy there and has been from the moment she got used to it and learnt that mummy is alwasy there when needed and you can make LOADS of mess at nursery without getting told off!

You'll be fine and so will she. I promise.

Glad you have some treats for yourself lined up. It is weird at first realising that you can go and do these things again!

My nursery also encouraged me to phone as often as I wanted when DS started. He got on well from the start but I still phoned in the middle of the day every day for the first two weeks. Then I stopped as I could see he was settled, but I will ring and check on any day when he doesn't seem like his usual self - today I am going to ring at lunchtime, for example, as he was unusually niggly this morning. Think it was tiredness, but again, they encouraged me to ring and check later if it makes me feel better. Any decent nursery will expect this and reassure you that it's fine to ring. Hope she is doing OK now!

I likey your plan for later

Ring now to put your mind at rest, yes?

Then you can enjoy the rest of your day

wtf is

Definitely call them. I called every day for the first 2 weeks or so, they were fine with it!

DS took a long time to settle in nursery, it took 6 months before I was able to drop him off without him screaming. Thing is, as soon as I left he'd be fine, playing with the other children (I could see him through the window)

All is well, she has been asleep for about half an hour, her key girl gave her a cuddle and sang to her (sob sob) so am very very relieved [weak grin]

hurrah !