probs with the partner

[ki28]

Hi,
Not sure if this is the right place to be posting this??

Since having our second child nearly9 mnts now. Im having major probs with partner of 4 years and stepdad to eldest ds(been with us since ds was 11 months) BUt that isnt the problem its me.

He is loving and i crnt really fault much about him,but still i dont feel the need to get !?close?! again. i feel like he is smoothering me and this is only wen he kisses me goodbye in a morning. I still love him the same nothing has changed reguarding that. he is very understanding bout it. But even now i think now COME ON i need THAT back. Any ideas?? Ta

[dfmum]

sorry if this sounds too obvious, but do you think it could be due to you feeling depressed generally? do you think you might be suffering PND? sometimes it's our partners who we tend to focus it on ... if so maybe you could try to get your GP to get you someone to talk to?
Please don't think I'm trying to be patronising! After my first, I was very down and it really made me go off my then partner, big time.

[ki28]

hi, thnaks for replying. I already thought bout that, as was very sad for a while after my first dc. I just havent seemed to get that want or need back for and closeness more then a cuddle on the couch at very few occasions.
Am very puzzled,by it. And i can admit that for the first time in my life Im happly content with everything.

[dfmum]

have you spoken to him about it?
Perhaps you're just so content in role as 'mum' that you have kind of buried the side of you that is 'up for it'??!!
Any chance of a weekend away just the two of you?

[ki28]

I think that your right with the being content as we are. Will attemped at sorting out a weekend away/or nite. Think ill take us away.get drunk seen as kids wont be there and see were that takes us. Also i think it may be to do with the fact that i dont go out to work now just stay at home with the babbas and he just seems like another one of them. dunno.

[dfmum]

yes, few drinks, some new sexy knickers and being away from home might do the trick! Good luck, X