I can't stand DS anymore. Really and truly had ENOUGH.

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I can't be bothered to name change.

He's on a two week half term and he's being nothing but a total pita. He's four and half years old and I don't even like him. Go on, flame me. But I'm ready to tear my hair out, run screaming from the house and lock him in the cellar until he's back at school.

He constantly looks to make his sister cry, tormenting her by ripping every toy or book out of her arms. He always looking to make trouble, throwing toys, tantrums, breaking things, painting walls the very second my back is turned to wash his sister's hands after a painting session.

He gets loads of exercise. He's being a little horror and refuses to listen to anything I ask him to do or just blows raspberries and laughs in my face whenever I tell him off. Which seems to be constantly.

My due date is on Sunday for dc3 and right now all I can do is cry at the thought of having to deal with this horrible behaviour as well as having a baby. He is difficult.

I really really don't like him right now. Since he was two years old, our household has been a misery walking on eggshells around him, trying avoid his tantrums and rages and we're not walkover parents who just accept anything a kid wants for a quiet life. I've had enough of him, the stress he actively seeks to create and his ruling our house.

I just want to reject him totally and have absolutely nothing to do with him anymore. I cannot bear the thought of him near me right now because I feel he's being such a little shit every minute of every day. I'm at my wits end because there is absolutely nothing I can do to help improve his behaviour. We've tried everything.

Children are extremely perceptive little beings. Once he has seen that he is getting attention for his behaviour (negative attention!), he will continue to behave in that way. Children have an enourmous need to belong in the family, so much so that they will fit into any 'label' you place them in. Once he has misbehaved, gotten attention for it, been called difficult, naughty, wild etc.. he will live up to those labels, just to find his place in the family.
What you can try to do is not to fight with him when he misbehaves, but don't give in. Tell him calmly but firmly that while he is behaving that way he will have to have a time out in his room or somewhere away from everyone else. When he has calmed down, he can come back downstairs, and then comment on any good thing he does. Like, 'Sweetie, the way you shared with your sister was so kind of you', or something like that. When he sees that hes getting some great positive attention from you, he'll begin to act that way more often. Don't let him see you distressed by his behaviour, he will use that.
Good luck!

A 3rd (4th?) for How to talk so children listen and listen so children talk

Amazing book and helped when I was at the crying with desperation point with mine. Speaking if which need to reread, as there is loads I skimmed

Also have you heard of parent line plus? Its a phone that you ring and someone human talkks to you about why life is rubbish and bounces ideas off with you.

Again phoned them in tears and thinking I was world's worst mum and came off with some coping techniques
A raelly good one was to have a plate of shiny pennies and everytime he made me smile move one accross. At end of da was amazed to see 10 pennies in second dish when I would ahve said we battled all day. Was a real wakeup call and helped me so much

"Parentline: 0808 800 2222
Feel like talking things through parent to parent?

Parentline is there for any parent, any time. Free*, confidential, 24/7.

Phoning the helpline gives you the opportunity to talk and to be listened to, to work things out and find solutions to your family problems or to be put in touch with one of our regional parent support groups. You?ll be talking to a parent who will understand and won?t judge you or boss you around.

And you can also find out where to go for specialist advice or just ask for more information.

Parentline is a confidential service. We do not pass on information about callers without their agreement, unless there is a risk of significant harm to a child or adult. Sometimes, for reasons of quality control and training, we will listen to calls.

99.4% of calls made to the helpline are answered within 30 seconds. Information materials are sent within 48 hours and complaints are resolved within seven working days. "

link

Good luck

oh and How to talk I used at age 4.5 with DS. its not all relevant but enough is if you extrapolate