Mums who always thought they wanted a girl .........

[chocolatemunchies]

do you actually feel really content and complete after having 2 boys?

I really understand that feeling, I feel that if we did have another child I would want a boy.
Because I wouldn't want my DS2 thinking that he was the "consolation prize" until we got a girl.
I was such a tomboy, and have 3 brothers, I think that is why I have 2 boys! I can handle them....I think!

Thanks Chocolatemunchies. Here's hoping.

I find it really sad that so many people feel like they have to have a girl to feel content.

My 2 boys are totally different, fabulous characters. I am pregnant with DC3 and tbh I would feel more comfortable having another boy than a girl, but that isn't to do with feeling my family is complete.

I heard a woman in a shop saying (loudly) that she would swap one her sons any day for a little girl - that made me feel really upset.

I think boys are vastly undervalued in society, and am surprised opinions like these are expressed on MN so often.

Have two boys and love them to bits.
Love their affection for me & DH.

Feel complete (we won't have any more) but not always content.

I probably have a rosy view of what life would be like with a daughter, but I sometimes feel a bit alienated from DH & the DSs - everything is loud, noisy, messy and boisterous. Sometimes I want to run away and hide and do 'girly' things and have proper conversations. I am always secretly jealous when friends' daughters come roudn and I find I can have conversations with them.... my boys always seem to degenerate into them wrestling on the floor.

I worry what will happen when I get old - I think daughters look after you, but sons & DILs put you into a care home
I sometimes feel sad that I won't plait hair, or buy clothes together, or see a daughter have a baby of her own (I think MILs always get a bit alienated from sons' grandchildren?)

But at the end of the day I don't dwell on it, and I am so grateful for having the wonderful boys I have.

It brought it home to me today when we were talking about how in China couples can only have one child. DS2 (7) got a bit upset, and said, 'but Mummy, that means if we lived in China I wouldn't be here..'

Actually yes, I am content....

Flippin' heck you lot You've got me feeling broody again.
I'm typing this and DH is getting DS2 ready for bed. DS2 has got me in stiches being a bit manic but hysterical. Ds1 is watching a tv programme and wants a cuddle. So going in the living room in min for 'goodnight cuddle'before he goes to bed.

I would love another boy here! DS2 would love a sister though.
I feel so so proud when I see the boys in their cub/scout uniforms, when the three of us go backpacking together and DS1 becomes the 'protector' and makes sure that I'm alright. (I am, of course, but he likes that role),when they lift the shopping in because it might be too heavy for me, the 'serious' conversations we have. the list goes on. I think that I am a bit of a spoiled princess at times because I'm the only female here and the only female in an all male team so I get looked after.

I'm getting a bit emotional now so I better go for that cuddle that's waiting for me in the living room!!!!

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh upahill enjoy that cuddle!

Washersaurus I agree that boys are very often stereotyped, and sometimes demonised. I am proud to be raising two thoughtful sons.

And upahill - I'm with you about the cub uniforms .....

i have 5 boys and a girl

Since i was pg with number 3 i have wanted more girls

I proceeded to have 4 more boys!!!

My boys are loving soft gentle just dreamy. Yesterday ds4 came into a room i was in climbed onto the chair i was on snuggled under the blanket and whispered 'I love you' !!!

I have yearned for girls, cried in clothes shops - wept at scan and yet I can honestly say I am the happiest happiest Mum....

I am so in love with my boys and my 17 year old has been a DREAM

My daughter is lovely but much stroppier ( age ) and they are not little long

I do believe maybe toddler boys are harder work and need more controlling....but they grow up and inot GORGEOUS teenage boys. My ds1 is such great company - a total mate but respectful at the same time

I could write an essay!

Gooping It's so interesting what you say about teenagers.
As mine have got older I've realised that I am not dreading their teenage years. In fact I'm quite looking forward to it.

This is such an uplifting thread. I feel quite bad that I ever worried about our second baby being a boy

While preg with DS1, I was hoping for a girl, while preg with DS2, I was also hoping for a girl and cried when they told me he was a boy at the scan.

Preg with DS3, I was convinced he was a girl as preg was so different, but he was also a boy and it didn't bother me.

Am preg with DC3 and I think this one will be a boy too. To be honest, DH and I have both agreed we would both be maybe a little bit... scared, if we were told this baby was a girl?

We have had all boys for ages (4 yrs ) and that's sort of 'how we roll'. ;)

We have massive train sets and a garden full of bikes and buggies, remote control trucks, mud piles for digging full of tractors and dump trucks. I am quite an outdoorsy person and we all go out and just get plastered in mud!

I do enjoy spending time with my niece though. SIL is not very 'mothering' and doesn't really do any 'Mother Daughter' stuff with her so when I see her she is all over me. SILs loss, my gain - makes me a bit sad for niece though.

TBH, I felt complete at 3, all boys, my longing for a girl (at one point it was longing) dispersed after DS2 - my logic was 'you won't have a girl now' and I accepted that.

This DC is a bit of a suprise - came about by some sort of miracle, and after initial shock am now over the moon - always dreamed of 4, then changed my mind, now will have 4.

Content - Yes, no matter what sex this one is.

3rd sentence should read DC4 obv....

I have 2 sons.

Sometimes I still get asdaness as I didn't get to choose a girls name and buy girls clothes, but then I pull myself together and remind myself those tings do not ultimately provide happiness.

So on a deeper, less superficial level, yes I'm deeply content that I have two beautiful sons that I love so fiercely, life does not get better than that.

Complete? Do children 'complete' anyone? can anyone really 'complete' another person? is anyne ever really complete? I'd probaly answer no to all these.

It's been great reading all these posts .
Like LadyoftheFlowers my feelings about wanting a girl changed from pregnancy to pregnancy: with DS1 I was positively fightened I might be expecting a girl as I felt I would not know what to do with a girl ! If DC2 had been a girl I would have been quite happy, however liked the idea of a same-sex playmate for DS1. DS3 I was glad he was a boy as it kept things simple, in keeping with what LotF said about boy's toys... If I could have just ticked an order form box "pink" I probably would have, but am delighted to be expecting DS4.
Now, names however, we are struggling with, we are all out of boy's names ideas .