IS IT OK TO LIE TO YOUR CHILD?

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I'm a single mum with a young daughter of three. I'm bringing up my daughter with as much love and care.I'll be honest with you i'm making up the parenting thing as i go along, my philisophy is just do the complete opposite of my parents and hopefully she'll be fine. I was seriously abused as child by my father, emotional,sexually and physically as you can imagine i want to protect my daughter from this evil person. My worse worry being a single parent, what if something was to happen to me. Would my daughter try to seek my father out because unfortunaley i don't have some extended family. So do I tell her ''please do not seek out my father because ....'' or do i say and it has crossed my mind recently, that he passed away when i was young.

Make a will assigning guardianship to someone you trust. Let them know that you don't want her to have contact with your father. It's probably not a good idea to lie about him dying though.

Hi, I agree with emwi, make sure the guardian knows your history and perhaps write a letter to your daughter for the gaurdian to give her when the time is right.

I wouldn't lie to your daughter nor would I tell her the truth -yet. Of course you don't want your father anywhere near your daughter, but wait till she's much much older before you tell her about the horrible abuse you suffered. My heart goes out to you. I agree with emwi about guardianship. Good luck popcorn.

thankyou for your warm and informative response

Nothing to add to the brilliant advice, but can I just say that I think you sound like an absolutely fantastic mother. It's inspiring to hear about someone like you who was hurt but is still clearly so full of love and determined to make a difference. The very best to you and your daughter.