things we swore we would never do....

[nell12]

I am just about to feed dd even though her nappy is toppers and because she will be in the bath in 15 minutes I don't see the point in changing her.
I was wondering, what dreadful(!)things have other mums done after giving up all expectations of being the perfect parent in the harsh light of day?!!

Potty training after 2 yrs old, ha ha!

Give DS commercial baby food. (Though I lasted in the allergy induced organic mood until he was 18m old)

Fabulous thread.
Now let me see:

He wasn't going to have a dummy
I wasn't going to react to tantrums
I was going to use washable nappies only
I was only going to feed him home-made food
I was going to breastfeed for at least six months (Ha! Just about managed 6 daysI was going to try Gina Ford (and I failed the Ford "neurotic mother test" big time)

Oh I could go on but what's the point - we all do our best even if things don't always go to plan.

Going to Macdonalds!!!

dummy horibble imho

never did either

leave snot dripping from their noses

Completely agree with the food ones....give crapy food in order to get them to eat something!
Eating in front of the TV
Giving pudding even though I had threaten not to if they don't eat their dinner
Bribe...to get them to do anything
Choose own clothes just so they will get dressed therefore going out looking completely ridicilous

the list is endless....

Was too lazy to have any expectations of self as a parent, so the fact that I will wipe ds's snotty nose with my nightie/sleeve/whatever seems perfectly reasonable if no tissue handy. After all, my clothes are covered in food, milk, lickand general grot already (hmm, have sneaky feeling should be blushing round about now...)

I was never going to give mine dummies
They would be fed on home made organic food
I was going to breastfeed
They weren't going to be allowed to watch more than half hours telly a day
I was going to use washable nappies..

All b*llks.. I broke the first one by giving ds a dummy when he was 6 hrs old. One of the best things I ever did

I would also never give or have given my sons a dummy. I would never let them stay in dirty nappy (when they poo) for more than a few minutes. If they are going to have a bath soon I take their nappy off and let them enjoy.

Am hausfrau too - all my knickers are sloggi's and we pick up our new volvo estate tomorrow. No specs yet......

i refuse to give up my vw passat saloon. it's the only thing i find gives me a sense of what i used to be. i love turning up the radio when the kids are not with me, it makes me feel young again, even though i'm only nipping down to tesco express!!

not proud of this one....smacking and shouting, I never ever thought I'd do it and it was the only thing that I always frowned upon when I saw otehr parents doing it...and now I know.

But I wish I never did...(it's only happened a few times by the way, buit it's always one too many in my opinion...

webmum, don't feel guilty. i do when it happens. no one wants to smack an innocent child, but then no one is perfect. just relax in the knowledge that u r trying your best, and u r not a sadist, just a frustrated mum.

I've been there webmum. Not often and not proud.

I havent done it yet but im sure i will when ds is older and thats use

'because i said so/because im an adult' as an excuse like my mum did i hated it i promise myself i wont say it to my kids but i bet i will one day

I am an only child and I think my parents found it very hard to 'let go' when I was older, first boyfriend etc. I will try very hard to not be quite so protective with my 2 dd's

I think a lot of parents smack their children but just dont admit it. I did smack my ds but have stopped now as I finally realised that it served no real purpose and that it always made me feel like sh.. but I very much doubt that I will ever be able to stop the shouting!!!! Kids will drive you insane no matter how much you love them and I would truly love to be a calm softly spoken mum but I'm not and not many are so dont beat yourself up about it xxx

I've never smacked DS who is now 2.5. However, I have come extremely close on several occasions and only just managed to stop myself. I now understand perfectly why sometimes I see parents smack their kids. You're not a dreadful parent if you do - just frustrated and at the end of your tether.

I came close again two days ago when DS was lying on the ground in the car park, screaming his head off because he wanted to go one way and I needed to go another. All my health visitor parenting training "ignore the bad and reward the good" stuff went right out of the window as I grabbed DS warmly by the scruff of his neck and snarled my frustration at his behaviour. An elderly lady actually said "Tut" as she passed.

We swore we would never give DD a dummy but now she has one to go to sleep and it is the the most effective mute button known.

We said we wouldnt shout

We still use washable nappies but will use disposables when out for the day/ on holiday w/o washing machine

I did badger the nursery into replacing jam sandwiches and cakes for tea, with savory sandwiches and fruit tho'

I have smacked her hand occasionally when she has hit either of us and refuses to stop despite warnings/

I have done the spitwash thing [bleurrgh emoticon]

I pick dummies off the floor and pop them in my mouth to clean them and hand them to her but if she has a dummy during the day we usually have more serious issues such as teething or feeling unwell

my children were never going to watch 'to much' telly.......... of course they do

my children were never going to have tv's in their bedroom... they do

I haven't learnt my lesson though.. I say now; that my children won't hang arround street corners when they're older and I will ALWAYS know where they will be... I bet I won't.. sigh.....

Buy something from Boden

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I swore blind that my ds wouldn't have one of those smelly sucky comforter toys to sleep with - guess what? he has 4 identical ones that we wash when they get too stinky!
It's not a dummy, but it might as well be one. Most useful at times!