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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 09:54

i have been broody and i find myself fantasizing about having another baby all the time. i'm going over pros and con in my head over and over. obvious con is that we have very little money, but we had none when we had dd. arrghhh. please talk me out of it!

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starlover · 10/06/2005 09:55

have one have one have one!!!!!

jessicasmummy · 10/06/2005 09:56

Go on... you know you want to.....

starlover · 10/06/2005 09:56

hehehe do you think we're doing a good job of talking her out of it JM?

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 09:57

i've got to talk dh around first then!

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Toothache · 10/06/2005 09:57

DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT!!

starlover · 10/06/2005 09:59

aren't we awful? LOL

have you broached the subject with your dh before?

Toothache · 10/06/2005 10:01

My DH is easy to talk around.... he's just grateful for a bit of action!

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 11:24

i've talked to him a lot about it. he's too scared of what mind happen in the pregnancy and he really didn't like the baby stage :/

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 11:24

How old is/are your child/children?

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 11:25

my dd is nearly 4.

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charleepeters · 10/06/2005 11:26

my ds is only 9 months and were trying again!!!!!!!!!!!

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 11:28

whoa!
a few months ago i actually gave away lots of baby stuff we still had to clear my mind of the idea, but it hasn't helped.

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 11:30

Tell him that the baby stage is so precious (although scary and stressful at times!)... its such a small space of time though.

Ask him if he can imagine NEVER holding his newborn baby ever again.... to never hear his baby say "DA DA DA DA" for the first time.... never watch them take their first steps ever again.

I said this to DH. We have 2 and he was determined that we would have no more. But now he's agreed in a couple of years to try for another. Its just too precious and heartwarming a thing to go through to NEVER want to experience it ever again.

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 11:31

i shall give that approach a try

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anchovies · 10/06/2005 11:34

Queen flounce, just pretty much read what you wrote down the phone to dh at work and it worked a treat!

lucy5 · 10/06/2005 11:35

I know how you feel, my dd is 4 and I get huge waves of broodiness but then urge waves of uncertainty (sp) My problem is is that my dh is is broodier than me. As some might have seen on a different post i'm worried that I've left too big a gap. I think you know what you want to do, so just do it!

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 11:39

i think the gap wouldn't be a problem, more of an advantage. but yes, i swing from broody to doubtful. i got a jojo maman bebe catalogue today and cried while looking through it. it's like torture

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bubblerock · 10/06/2005 11:43

I'm broody too, but have had a definate NO from DH there's 5 years between my DS's and they adore each other, it took me that long to get over DS1's birth (ruined by pethidine), but DS2 popped out with no drugs it was an amazing experience, I was so in control and immediately after I said that I could definately do that again!

Go for it - your a pro now it'll be easy and I bet DD will be a great help, if you tie it in with her being a school you can get naps during the day with baby.

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 11:55

aww bubblerock. my labour went really well until they gave me pethidine.. i completely lost control and dh told them to give me an epidural.
i will have a chat with dh this afternoon. at least his definite no has turned into a 'i'd rather not' lately.

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 14:15
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Windermere · 10/06/2005 14:46

Go for it!

aloha · 10/06/2005 14:54

Oh do it! My ds is nearly four and you should see how he adores his baby sister (4months). It's so lovely.
And contrary to almost everything I've ever read, I really haven't found it more work having two....at least, not yet. DD is a dream baby.

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lilaclotus · 10/06/2005 15:54

i got him down to "i don't know" now. i think it's progress

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lilaclotus · 12/06/2005 23:03

i got a 'yes' today. we're going to try from mid july!!!

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homemama · 13/06/2005 08:41

lilaclocus,
I haven't posted but was following your thread and it made me broody even tho DS is only 7m old!
Decided to suggest it to DH yesterday am and this is the jist of the day!!
9am: Me-isnt DS wonderful, maybe we could start trying for another?
DH-What now? no way! NO WAY!

12.30: Me-with such a small age gap, they'd get on so well esp. two sons-and we'd get all the difficult stuff out the way at once!
DH-I think it would be really difficult.

5pm: Me-I'd take on most of the responsibility, drive the estate car etc, all you'd have to do is love your two beautiful children.
DH- and pay for them!! I just don't know, maybe.

10.30: Me-(in best snuggled up voice)You're such a wonderful Dad.
DH- O.k then, if we can start trying now!

It's just a case of gently explaining to him what it is he wants!
Good luck trying

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