Leaving your wailing DC at nursery goes against the maternal instinct rather, doesn't it?

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Hope it doesn't carry on for much longer...

Lol

We should all adopt a JG voice from time to time

"What do we do when we've been to the lavatory? Pull our knickers UP again"

Mine are only 2.3yrs. Keep worrying they are a bit young to learn their independence. I was going to read Tanya Byron for some reassurance, but don't want to go there if she thinks mine are a bit young! I don't need more guilt in my life! So please can someone tell me first?

Penona how often are they going?
DS started at playgroup at 2.3 one morning a week, a special session just for under-3s.

Prior to that he had been at home with just me, going to various toddler groups three times a week, with me.

Now he has 2 afternoon playgroup sessions 12.30 to 3, and 2 morning sessions 9.30 to 12, these are a different location (where his father lives).

He is an early riser so is often about ready for a nap or at least a quiet time at 12.30 hence sometimes upset when I leave him. The morning sessions much easier timewise but because he is at daddy's or I have just dropped him at daddy's he is often upset for that reason.

I have no experience of nursery but imagine the settling in is similar - start slow, build up, if possible.

They go three mornings a week, 9.30-12.30. It is a pre-school rather than nursery setting, ie all the kids go at the same time, there is a snack but no lunch, term time only etc. They are some of the youngest as they only take them from aged 2.
Until now have been at home with me, with only accompanied toddler groups etc. I would have preferred 2 mornings at first, but this place did a min of 3 mornings. IMO this is a lovely setting compared to some of the other local ones, and is by far the closest (I can see it from my bedroom!) so those outweighed the 3 mornings instead of two.

Oh it sounds lovely. Sorry to be dumb but they are twins, yes? Maybe 3 mornings is one too many, but if they are happy, then don't worry.

My friend down the road has DD 2.6 and she was allocated 2 afternoon sessions Mon and Tues, sheis only going to Monday one (although having to pay for 2) as dd so tired. That is the downside with pm sessions. But if yours are morning ones, they can rest afterwards if necessary, then you have a nice afternoon together (do you have other dcs?)

My ideal would be Mon Weds and Fri mornings for ds, but he can't have morning until next year when he is "preschool" and also I will have battle with xp over where he goes, again. At least ds can only go to ONE school (don't think xp has thought of this yet).

Oh it sounds lovely. Sorry to be dumb but they are twins, yes? Maybe 3 mornings is one too many, but if they are happy, then don't worry.

My friend down the road has DD 2.6 and she was allocated 2 afternoon sessions Mon and Tues, sheis only going to Monday one (although having to pay for 2) as dd so tired. That is the downside with pm sessions. But if yours are morning ones, they can rest afterwards if necessary, then you have a nice afternoon together (do you have other dcs?)

My ideal would be Mon Weds and Fri mornings for ds, but he can't have morning until next year when he is "preschool" and also I will have battle with xp over where he goes, again. At least ds can only go to ONE school (don't think xp has thought of this yet).

oops!

Penona I am certainly probably biased as both my DC have been at nursery from babyhood (4mths for DS, 6mths for DD) but at that age it is not about independence, but about realising that people other than Mummy & Daddy can take care of them - so being handed from a Mummy cuddle to a carer cuddle is entirely appropriate.

It's only when they get to preschool, IMO, that they learn to go in independently as such.

lankyalto - yes they are twins. They go three consecutive mornings as is better for me, and my nanny friend recommended so they got used to it. They are v tired by weds afternoon tho! No other dcs so we have nice relaxing afternoons mon-wed with just me and them, and I am totally focussed on them as I have had the morning to myself!

Nightmare if you have an xp to consult on these things. Hope he is understanding!

Just wanted to say thankyou for all the lovely supportive messages yesterday. Very reassuring

She was v happy when I collected her yesterday and was covered in grass stains and paint

I was very emotional yesterday

Thanks again!