opinions wanted please

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hi , my dd (3) still wants to drink milk from a bottle , my parents have said they don't see the harm it is doing giving it to her yet a friend of mine is making me & dd feel awful by jeering dd when she asks & comparing her to a baby etc which annoys me ,
dd has very bad eczema & i feel this is kind of a comfort thing with her , i would just like other mums opinion please ,
thanks x

I have just seen the bit about the 'friend' jeering at the child!?
WTF?
What a twat - I would deffo tell her where to go personally.

Regarding DS' teeth - I didn't think much of it either - bless him being the first born - he was like the gineau (sp?) pig.
The enamel on his 2 front teeth dissapeared from the gum line down to about half way - then while 'rough-housing' with daddy, they got knocked on the floor and subsequently snapped off - halfway.
To cut a long story short he has had 2 further accidents with them and we are now waiting for them to be removed - whats left of them as I am scared his teeth behind have been/will be 'shocked' again.
Needless to say, DS2 didn't have a bottle in bed long, neither will DS3 or DC4 who is due next year.

Bit of a long ramble! lol

clearly your friend or her own children have never suffered from anything as debilitating as eczema. dont worry about it. make sure you brush her teeth well and avoid juices from a bottle and at all if possible.

None of her business, tell her to butt out (sounds like my MIL commenting to toddlers about dummies) if she feels the need to mention it, she should talk to you not your dd.

My DD had a "bot bot" at bedtime when she was over 3, eventually we agreed that we wouldn't buy any more bottles or teats and when it naturally wore out she would swap to a cup, which she did happily.

I certainly didn't think it was worth any upset. BTW her teeth are lovely, at 5 she still has a cup of warm milk at bedtime.

It sounds like people IRL are very mean and rude saying things like that to you, but it's not recommended for children to have bottles beyond the age of 12m because of how it moulds their mouth and teeth not because of it being babyish.

I would be concerned about the effects on a child's teeth, and for that reason I would be thinking about stopping it.
Why not go shopping and let your DD choose her own cup to replace the bottle?
Then you would need to get rid of the bottles, so your DD can't see them.

I took them away from my DD at a little over 12m for the teeth reason. But, some children are still BF at your dd's age, some need comforters, we are all different and parent differently, and your friend is being unkind - whatever differences in parenting, there is no excuse for being rude to a defenceless 3 year old.

hi everyone , dd only has maybe 1 or sometimes 2 bottles of milk in a day , mostly in the morning & just before bedtime , she drinks out of beakers the rest of the time , i will take her shopping & ask her to pick a special cup for her milk though, that is a good idea hopefully then we can throw out the bottle,
yes i do think my friend is out of order speaking to dd like that & dd seems to be more self conscious around x now
x is new mum & thinks things have to be done by a certain age or else your a bad mum, try explaining that to a toddler who is awake 5-6 times a night crying & scratching herself raw . but i am worried about her teeth now also so will put more of an effort to get rid of the bottles , she is great at brushing her teeth though which is good ,

DS used to bf for comfort a lot, then would spend ages sucking on a bottle.
I got a nice beaker from Sainsbury, and DS will drink warm milk from that at bedtime. I never thought he'd take it instead of a bottle, but now age 2 he has no bottle!
Just in case you are thinking of swapping her from bottle onto a beaker - for us it was finding the right beaker for DS.

ladyoftheflowers - your poor ds
my ds (also first born) fell on a wooden floor with his dummy in his mouth when he was 18 months old , the front teeth died ,& we had them taken out when he turned 3 as they went black , but his next set of teeth were perfect , although he looked gummy for about four years , he always drank those fruit shoots though which we later found out rot the teeth , dd does not drink those , we live & learn i suppose ,